My sons fatheer has been an alcoholic since the day i met him, 12yrs ago although i did end up marrying him, and then divorced him he was not only physically abusive,but verbally, He calls my phone all night disrupting my home and also his moms home which is where he stays, but thats her problem not mine anymore. he refuses to get help cause he says we are in denial not him. How do you ignore him with tough love, but to where he wont harm himself? Mind you he has already been to prison from alcohol induced situations. he swears he aint going back and has done real well these last four considering he is on 2nd strike. He somehow manages to elude the police, by staying in his home all day everyday drinking every other. He just has no sense of morlality when he is drunk. Then who does. I have gotten to where i cant stand him. we are no longer together, Just maintaining a friendship/relationship for our son. But when he drinks he forgets and calls me all night. HELP, What do you do
2006-08-10 20:41:31 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to get 3rd party assistance. The internal family patterns have not led to change.
1) Concede he may never change
2) Do EVERYTHING you can, whenever he interacts with you to get him to professional, third party therapy.
The problems are way beyond "willpower" and "trying hard", there are physical/mental dependencies stronger than he can control.
2006-08-13 09:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by onemorealternative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get caller ID and don't answer his calls. So simple.
2006-08-11 00:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy him a drink?
2006-08-10 22:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by flat head & one eye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋