When men are realllly protective and posessive of females- does it boil down to simply trust issues. im talking about- all females he cares about.... mother, sisters, cousins, and his fiance... its not mean necessarily, but seams very old fashioned to me. I understand the protectiveness a little bit- but could it stem from childhool problems, upbringing?, too much testosterone?... Sometimes it feels like theres no trust--- like if he really trusted you he wouldnt worry. but his argument is he doesnt trust other people, hes the man- yada yada yada.....
what do you all think? why are some men like this.
2006-08-10 20:39:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
men are never possessive...they just care.
men that are possessve had problems and need help
2006-08-18 18:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by darknight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Protective is a good thing! It means your man cares about you and loves you! Possessiveness is not a good thing at all and is a sign that he does not trust you at all or value you in the slightest! Depends on what exactly he is doing/ saying and not doing/saying. Men and women are very different, that has to be taken into consideration too. Yet if he in fact does not trust you, then you need to think real hard on if you can trust him.
2006-08-18 04:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possessiveness can be a form of "control". The male ego is in play here (naturally); however, when men become too possessive, the relationship becomes stiffling. It's fine to protect and be proud of someone; however, no person "owns" another person. You are your own person! I was married for years to a possessive, controlling, manipulating person. (I am now divorced from them). This is a sign of "insecurity" which comes from WITHIN. You cannot make a person feel insecure...neither can you change those feelings. It is something the possessor has to work on individually.
It's fine to be proud of and protect a person; however, it is inmature and selfish to "think" you own them! They are not your maker!
Peace and blessings!
2006-08-18 08:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to start not all men are like that .its the ones that are slipping in and out of back doors that are that way . if a man is acting that way it is because his conscious wont let him be he begins to believe that the female is doing the same as he .that's why it feels like there is no trust because he does not trust himself.
2006-08-17 07:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by Chana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have know idea why men are like this, but to some extent I think it is a trust issue...I have know idea how they develope this but I think that all men are like this to some level.
2006-08-18 13:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lysa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its simple sociobiology; men have no way of being 100% sure that the offspring women carry are theirs, they can only go on what they are told and have to trust. by limiting female contact with potential threats to their gene pool, the male mammal increases their chance of being the only one to breed with the potential mate that will bear their children. throw in the fact that women as a general rule cannot resort to physical violence to force their way in a situation, they evolved to be smarter than men when it comes to deception and manipulation. these, of course are general rules, and not absolutes, there are probably tons of men and women who are the exception that prove it.
i learned a long time ago that it was primitive behaviour and i place no restrictions on my partners, even in the realm of sex, as long as open communication and fairness exists for both of us.
2006-08-10 20:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by sleepingtao 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it all started before good birth control.
the men had to watch their women to make sure that they were raising their own kids.
and men know what other men are thinking. take it as a compliment and go on.
if he didnt care he wouldnt worry about it
2006-08-16 18:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY QUESTION IS, DOES HE STOP YOU FROM BEING OR DOING THINGS WITHOUT HIM. I HAVE A HUSBAND THAT TREATS ME LIKE GOLD, HE WAS THE BABY OF FOUR CHILDRREN, THREE OLDER SISTERS. HE LEARNED HOW TO TREAT WOMEN. HE TRUSTS ME, BUT ALSO DOESNT ALWAYS TRUST THE PEOPLE THAT I AM AROUND.
2006-08-18 16:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by deby k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The men are insecure about their masculinity. If they are possesive, this means they are trying to "own" you. You are not a possesion but a person.
2006-08-18 17:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Evie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just that we (men) as a universal subject....care so much about females.... check this out...what would you choose a responsible guy or a stupid guy on the loose who doesn't even care about the people in his surroundings.. just imagine that!
2006-08-10 20:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every man is different. Not all man are possesive. Its all about trust. I
2006-08-18 02:10:37 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋