My boyfriend's mother calls me disgusting names, then denies it all, pulls my hair and throws sharp objects at me, and then puts a restraining order against me, making up stories. Her other son also shouts at me and pushes me up against walls. My dad is also very violent and irresponsible and cannot control his temper, and he punches my boyfriend several times and leaves him bleeding after pushing me away and also spits and insults him (he said he did it because my guy was 'provoking' him by kissing me out the front) and has also put a restraining order on my boyfriend.
2006-08-10 20:09:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The police don't do anything.
2006-08-10 20:28:52 · update #1
I don't think it'll matter who I'm with or who he is with, they both attack whoever girlfriend/boyfriend we have had.
It won't help breaking up!
2006-08-10 20:30:10 · update #2
This does not make sense. Life is not fair. Justice has nothing to do with it, unless someone presses charges. But humanity in general is mostly irrational, so it is par for the course. The sceneraio sounds contrived. Is this an actual situation in real-life or did you make it up?
If you are old enough, elope. Move far far away and don't contact either family for awhile.
2006-08-18 18:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by doc_jhholliday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love each other no matter how old you are, don't let this situation make your desicion to be together or not. I did that once and I regret it to this day and it has been 20 years. If you are not of adult age yet than both your parents are handling this with the wrong attitude. We all know that if you tell someone not to do something or you can't be with someone, that will be the first thing they will set out to do. If things don't get better from both sides than maybe you should decide for yourselves just how important you are to each other and move out or break up which ever you decide it really needs to be your decision not your parents. If your parents are smart they would just back off no matter what they are thinking and hope that they have raised you to be strong, smart individuals that will make the right choices in life and realize that even if it is a mistake for the two of you to be together that it is your mistakes or choices to make. Good luck to the both of you and I hope you find some middle ground to work out your problems. If at all possible COMMUNICATE your feelings to your parents and maybe it will get better for ALL!
2006-08-17 09:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by PET 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a couple of families of loonies.
if you are old enough, run for the hills. the studies have proved that kids from violent homes think that violence is natural and its a vicious circle.
i would not go over to the boyfriends house. you are invading her space there. thats her kingdom, not yours.
if the boyfriends brother yells and pushes you, my advice is to stay away. but im curious about where the boyfriend was when all this was going on.
was this a one time deal or does it happen all the time?
did something happen that made them this mad at you? somehow i dont think that we are getting the whole story here.
2006-08-17 04:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
My advice to you is that if you truly want to be together, you move away together, and tell your families to stop bothering you.
There are some serious issues at work here, because normal people do not physically assault others just because they do something they don't like. If someone assaults you or your boyfriend again, please call the police. These people need help, because they are beyond logic.
2006-08-10 20:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 08:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask someone who knows you about whether you do things to provoke people. It sounds like you need to ask your father for his opinion about your boyfriend. There is more to this problem than what you are presenting. Basically, get honest observations from a number of people to help you identify the crux of the problem.
2006-08-18 19:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by taxigringo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a dysfunctional situation to me all the way around. Give it time for you and your boyfriend to get away from these people. Good Luck!
2006-08-10 20:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it move the hell away from all of this!! Where is your mother? Does she have any say so about any of this? Are your/his parents on drugs or something? They all need a reality check! And are you sure you guys are not in to any trouble yourselves, have you or him been rude to the family members?
2006-08-17 06:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't how old you are but it's time to stay away from your b/f s family completely. Maybe him too. Also with your family situation, it might be advisable tocallfor help from child protective custody -- or if you're old enough, go live with a relative. get out before you get hurt. now.
2006-08-10 20:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone who will listen to u,a good friend, an adult you can trust,someone, this behavior is stupid. tell the police again, or go to a place where u can get free legal advice what to do, i don't know how old you are,so my reply is kinda limited here, also is there any reason why they feel this way.but you two shouldn't have to take this, this is abuse.
2006-08-17 05:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋