Everytime I am near my husband, even in front of the kids he grabs my breast or slaps my butt. I am sick of it. I tell him to stop, especially around our kids but he says he never will. It is the first thing he does every day when he sees me. Normally you'd think, cool he is attracted to me, but I don't feel like that. I am getting to the point of detesting all physical contact with him. He knows I don't like it, but won't stop. Now he can't figure out why I don't ever want to be intimate with him. Can we ever fix this and have a normal sexual relationship?
2006-08-10 19:52:36 · 22 answers · asked by Lynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Clarify: I've been married 5 years. We used to have a great sexual relationship. About 1 year ago he started grabbing at inappropriate times and it got worse when I asked him to stop. It isn't sensual caressing, he just graps (because he can). Or slaps my butt (because he can). Tells me he owns them. And why in front of the kids? Now my 5 year old makes comments about it. She thinks it is a game mommy and daddy play. Who is faster mommy or daddy!!!!!!
2006-08-10 20:09:37 · update #1
I could be wrong, but my first guess would be that he's not happy with the amount of sex you're having.
Tell him you're not comfortable being publicly groped, and that if he can ease up, you'll be down for more private groping.
Then follow through if he does.
2006-08-11 04:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Groping Me
2016-12-15 06:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation, and I can't get my man to stop, either...plus, I will be at the sink doing dishes or whatever, and he will come up behind me and pull my pants down and laugh! He is in his forties, I am in my 30s so no, its not like we are young kids!!!! Or he picks me up and carries me to the bedroom, and I can't stop that either! He is a CAVEMAN!!!!
Wish I had an answer for us, girlfriend.
2006-08-11 03:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really needs to stop. You've got to show him how he is training your daughter that groping is alright. When he wants sex, tell him no, that he already had his quota of you for the week. If he doesn't touch you next week then maybe.
Your daughter is going to grow up and grope boys and let them grope her. Thats not what you want.
Stop it now.
2006-08-11 01:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sensei Rob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him aside and make..."dates" to do....sexual stuff with him. and if it would help any Tell him what the children would think if they keep seeing him do that. They would get a bad image and if one of ure kids was a boy thats what he's probably going to do to girls when he's older. Ask him if he wants that.
2006-08-10 19:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a problem if he is not taking your seriously when you tell him to stop and he refuses. I think you should book an appointment for you two with a marriage counselor. They are good at helping to solve problems that involve lack of communication and mutual respect in relationships.
2006-08-10 19:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by Signilda 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
im sorry, i wish there was a more adult way to deal with your situation that he would go for i can only suggest when he slaps your butt slap his face and see how much he likes that, or tap the balls that one was pretty good i hope someone can help good luck
2006-08-10 20:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him EVERYTHING you have told us... he needs to hear it straight up & to the point. Whatever it is you are feeling, TELL him.
I feel that there is a serious lack of communication here.
Good Luck!
P.s. Don't mean to sound rude but it has to be done... don't assume that he should figure things out...
2006-08-10 20:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband said that every time he grabs your boobs or slaps your as$, to grab his nuts and squeeze. If that doesn't work, try pulling and squeezing at the same time. One of them will eventually hurt. He also says that it might help if you add the words "Down boy!"
2006-08-10 20:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca M 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nick Johnson and Cole Williams posted the same question. You should read their answers side by side.
2016-08-23 04:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋