whats wrong with me? How can i be this sad?

Question

I know ii have alot of problems right now but why cant i just be happy again how i was 4 months ago. I recently broke up with my boyfriend because he cheated and i know im not over him yet. i still love him. I have financial problems and my only options for me right now is to file bankrupcty or do debt management but i wll have to do that to 2013 and i dont know what to do. I barelly have enough money to go to school but im going and living paycheck to pay check but i have to move back to school so now i have to find a new job. im scared im going to be all alone now especially eveything that happened between me and my ex. we have the same friends. I know i keep praying about everything but i just want to be happy again.

Answer 1

You gotta take everything one day at a time,you can't do everything all at once. Stop worrying over the things that you don't have control over and break down all your problems into smaller portions so they won't seem so intimidating. Take care of each task one at a time. Don't just depend on the same group of friends,go out and meet all kinds of people,stop new interests and make time out just for yourself by pampering yourself with something you have never pampered yourself with before. Just look at each problem as a challenge and ther problem won't seem like a problem and will one day become an accomplishment. Just know that this situation you're in right now will not last forever and that one day you will be able to say "I did it!"

Answer 2

sounds like you are going thru a bout of depression (not surprising) I deal with this monster every day. Find a good DR who is up on depression. As for being alone, a good pet helps that, mine pulled me through a horrible streach last year. Bankrupcy is not that bad, been there too. This may sound a little off beat but try this. You are sad because you think you are sad, but if you take the approach that you are happy and think it all the time (fake it to you make it) it will change things. Works something like this We are where we are because of whe we thought in the past, so if you start thinking happy then you become happy. Start thinking what would be the perfect job for you and think about how much fun it is and how it will help you in positive ways. I know this sounds Pollyannaish, but it really does work. ( I have found what gives all signs of a very good gold mine, because I believed and went looking) Taking a poor me approach gets you there. I know the following saying is trite but true, "if you think you can or if you think you cannot you are right" Get some medical help to get your thoughts lined out and then you will be able to think more clearly about your options. If you want you can write me off line about this as well

Answer 3

You're looking too much into the bad things happening in your life. If you focus too much on the bad things, you WILL feel this way...Try and focus on the positive things in life...You know what? You might feel sad cuz you broke up w your bf, but think of it this way...if he was cheating on you, why should you be sad. He obviously had no respect for you. So YOU have respect for yourself, you don't need a "boy" disrespecting you and making you feel worst! You did the right thing. Time will heal all. Have faith...One thing I've learned (and trust me, I know where you're coming from, try 7yrs down the drain for the same reason) I learn to trust God. He will never give you more than you can handle. You will get over everything over time. Be patient. You will be happy as long as you keep your faith that everything will be ok for you at the end. I tell myself this everyday: "Things happen for a reason. I may not know now way that is, but I will know eventually. Things will be clear." If you need someone to talk to, I'm a good listener. Hope everything turns out right. Stay strong, cuz God won't abandon you!

Answer 4

It sounds like your quite a bit depressed about the whole situation and I don't blame you
I admire you for continuing school during this low point in your life. If the friends you shared with your ex decide they are drawing the line between your friendships then they really were not good friends and he can have them :) you can make more.. your bright and intelligent you wont be lacking in friends for long.

If you do end up going bankrupt its OK.. these things happen..consider it a total new start .. you can do it ... happiness is just around the bend

All the best

Answer 5

Millions of people live from pay to pay and go to school you just have to put your mine to it and do it pull your pruse strings alittle tighter for awhile when you are finish with school you will soon see light at the end of the tunnel as for your ex well that just what he is your ex leave him there and go on you can make it only you can stop yourself from succeeding and so you share the same friends that doesn't mean you stop living if they are your friends they will always be your friends so hold your head up high and move on up in the world

Answer 6

What you need to know is that you're not alone. I feel like this before and for me it's like the end of the world. But then I manage to go through it. So you have to believe it too. Find your friend or closest person and share your problem with them. I think it's alright to be sad, I will.. if I were you. But don't be too long. Wish you all the best.

Answer 7

Hey well with the boyfriend dont worry about him if he cheated on you then he doesnt deserve you and never will.If you cant find a good job maby u should get a couple part time jobs till u find the right one i know your scared but the best thing to do is go to your parents or siblings for help and if you still arnt happy maby the best thing for you is to go to theropy for a while
trust me youll be happy agian right now your heart is broken and it will take some time to heal.Well thanks for listening, sarah

Answer 8

Oh my goodness....and I thought I had it bad. My boyfriend was in prison and left me all alone...broke up with me because he thought I would cheat on him like all this ex's did to him. I'm pregnant. I live at home with mom, and I'm trying to get the hell out. I lose my job, and I'm afraid I will not be able to take care of my baby, and how am I suppose to tell my baby that his daddy is a bad person when he grows up?....anyway....about the financial thing I can't tell you much...but try taking out a loan...try to get a family member to help you out like a close sister or brother. Don't be scared about being alone. Your ex is going to want you back later on in life because you were the best thing for him.
Since you and him still have the same friend...treat him like a friend...like you don't know him. Example: when you say hi to your friend say hi to him to, to show him no hard feelings...DON'T LET HIM SEE YOU HURT. Us women have to much PRIDE for that. I know you still love him and you can. I want you to be happy to. I will prey for you tonight OK? may the lord be with you in life.

-heaven/hell-

Answer 9

i can relate to a bit but mine was different i lost my better half to a death i would find councilor any find any and all finical help that you can you deserve a better person than him if he cheated once then probability do it again so i would just keep my hopes up and sooner or later a good person will come into your life

Answer 10

Go to your parents for help.