this boy is very nice, cool, calm, lovable from very good family background, but his financial background is good but not so supportive, and he is 11years older than me. I prefer to be batchral for a life time. So I cannot honor his feeling, we work in a same place, our sports background is same. We can't go away from each other, and I do not want to lose a person like him, he is my big moral support.
Our marraige is not at all possible b'coz of his age he is 34 and i am 23 and cast problem, myself is from Brahmin Family. And my family is very rigid about the cast. even my family will not compromise on the issue of his age as well as his financial condition and dont want to hurt my family at any cost.
So please suggest me the calm way to tackle this issue without hurting him. i want he as a best man of my life forever.
I am very thankfull to your answer.
2006-08-10 19:08:00 · 7 answers · asked by s s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it seems that you loves this guy ,but want to please your family,
but you need to please yours self because you will be the one who will have to spend your life with some one your family oked but you don't love or cared for like this guy and then you will never no how it feel to have that one who you totally cares for and loves who also feels the same way for you ,every day by your said. remember also loves some one who loves you more.
2006-08-14 03:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by rudy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear friend,
it is confusable, because in one hand u say about u r cast, family,age and complaining his financial status as well and on the other hand u say he is the best man of your life forever. now you are in a position to prioritise which do u want first then u could come to a decision. if u ask me i would say that if u r a good family girl and a daughter of a good parents and thinking of u r parents prestige then sacrify u r love, explain u r man u r situation and be confident while u r telling this to him or forget u r family and marry him but i don't think that u will be happy with him as u are not satisfied of his age and financial status in the beginning. this will be a problem in your life and u will be unhappy and he as well, therefore u can't live a happy life. i think i have explained it to u clearly now as a women make u r own decision but be confident and strong in u r decision. u can get advice from many people but the decision should be yours.
2006-08-11 02:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by m.shahila m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best to tackle this one is head on.....you have to be truthful with yourself first before you can be truthful with others...if you feel that it's not what you want then face this person head on without any interuptions (make sure it's in a place that is easy to get in and out) then tell this person the truth about how you feel and that it wouldn't work and that their is someone for them out their and that if that doesn't work then say hey i like you like a brother and then that way it's said and done
2006-08-11 02:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by linda_wthrfrd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear i think you gotta be true to yourself first and it seems to me that you are both madly in love with each other. and so whats the problem age caste money in which world are you still living pl come out of stoneage. if you love him and he loves you - you both should get married and live your life and not for the family because society if made by us and not we by the society ok.
2006-08-11 02:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that his friendship means a great deal to you and that you don't wish to jeapardize that but that you have no intentions of every marrying him and that he must come to accept that.
THen ask him to please never raise the subject of marriage again to you and to respect your wishes.
You may have to lose the friendship regardless as he may be extremely hurt by your rejection. So you will have to accept that if he does. You can't have it all your way in matters of the heart.
2006-08-11 02:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by EVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth, it might hurt now, but it will hurt even more later. and in doing so you might be protecting yourself. let him find some one that will love and respect him, in the long run he will love you for it. maybe by telling him the truth, you will maintain a very good friend
2006-08-11 02:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by lynda g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shd told him directly wat u feel abt him so he will be beware at timebecoz he is a nice guy u can't cheat him like that rell him directly u can't marry him but both of u can be a gud frnd in future after that wat he feel wat he realise then u can take other step
2006-08-11 02:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by shalluarora_9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋