Im 20 a and hes 26. we've been married for 1 yr and 6 months. we would make out while we were dating but now that we are amrried he doesnt want to make out. WHY? What can I do?
2006-08-10 18:59:24 · 14 answers · asked by Paola M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Another problem he doesnt want to have sex that often. He is not cheating on me, maybe its because hes taking anti depressants but he does get an erection really easly. Like he has a ***** and he still wont want to have sex. Its wierd. And Im really attractive so im so confussed
2006-08-10 19:07:02 · update #1
I ve talked to him about making out, sex, etc. we have really good comunication. He just says he doesnt know whats wrong.
2006-08-10 19:10:48 · update #2
Dear Paola,
The best weapon in marriage is communication. If you were communicating well, you probably wouldn't have asked this question here. This question can best be answered by him. None of us will give you a concrete answer. So, please talk to your husband. Don't start like you are angry with him or as if you are complaining. Just get him when he's in his best moods and talk. Ask him if there is something wrong. tell him you are worried about him. The good thing is that he's not cheating on you. am sure he loves you. may be there is a part of you that he misses. something you nolonger do. May be its him, he may be feeling worthless. There is that time in marriage when men want to be left alone. Do everything you can to make him talk to you. Remember, don't push it. and this is my advice, pray. If you've never prayed, this time pray. Ask God to help you because he's the only one who knows every man's thoughts. as I write this, I have made a prayer for you. May the Lord who is all knowing guide and help you so your marriage will blossom. In Jesus name.
if you have talked and he says he doesn't know what's wrong, then take my advice, pray, ask God to change him. and he sure will.
2006-08-10 19:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Pearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*** Well it could be the medication- hes obviously on medication for depression as you stated. that could effect him a lot. either the depression alone or the medication. it is odd that he can still be erect and not interested. maybe some tough love sounds wierd but make him do it- if hes erect make him engage. and ask him whats going on inside his head whats making him feel awkward. sounds like whoever gave him the meds for the depression should be the one to ask tho
maybe he never liked it to begin with. ask him, seriously- dont be so upset about it- tell him you wonder if somethings changed if he isnt into it anymore of if he never really was.
also for some dudes making out is just a fore play...maybe he is so comfortable with you now hed rather just go straight to it. if you arent, tell him- be like "listen, i miss kisses...just kiss me". if he has such an issue with it that he refuses too, then thats offensive and you should know why. if he loves you and its something you are into i dont see why he wouldnt.
2006-08-10 19:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend doesn't even want to make out now let alone when we get married. I guess I just live with it. We used to but it became a sore point in our relationship when he decided to stop. Apparently all along he was just being nice because he knew it was what I wanted. He didn't like it however because it was "gross." The idea of swapping spit was more than he wanted. Maybe your husband was just being nice and decided enough was enough as well. I would just confront him about it, just let him know your open to suggestions!
2006-08-10 19:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by I_am_Here_and_Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many factors so why don't you ask him and offer to help him in anything he's going through. Maybe he needs to go to the doctor. Best thing to do is ask him and take it from there. Good Luck
2006-08-10 19:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by Geneddly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason he is not "into" sex....
Sorry to say, everyone has a different sex drive, his seems almost not there. And it seems as if without his own "need" he is not interested in "doing" for you. Sorry, he's not a giving spouse.
There is a support group for people in your situation, come join us.
2006-08-11 01:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make out???? lets get this straight...make out like in the back seat of a car...make out like on your parents sofa so on and so forth...or do you mean having the fun and pleasures of your own down and dirty sex in your own bed....if at the time dating and sex was fun with him the anticipation of the next time made it better....get my drift...but now ring on finger makes no anticipation or he's gone to the male side or he has other or others to play with...Im not trying to hurt your feelings but look anticpation is always exciting don't you think...
2006-08-10 19:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by linda_wthrfrd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either having problems with performing or having an affair. Maybe yooou should ask him which one is the problem
2006-08-10 19:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by J J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him
Send us a pic of you, all of you, I might be able to shed some light on the dilemma
2006-08-10 19:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by ricosuarve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u made out too much wen u were dating so he is kinda tired
2006-08-10 19:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥♣BABY GIRL♥♥♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause you got to have sex as soon as he gets off work so hell do it
2006-08-10 19:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by ~_babigurl_d@ 0nly 1!~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋