I'm still a virgin and my boyfriend and i have been dating for two yrs now and he wants to take it to the next level. I'm not to sure if i'm ready yet. I know he isn't a virgin and he's been faithful for the past two yrs (well soh he claims and i have no reason to doubt him). I wanna ask him to get fully checked out blood tests....the whole nine yards. I don't wanna catch anything. How do i do this w/out causing any conflict?
2006-08-10 18:53:53 · 7 answers · asked by shorty 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You simply tell him you aren't comfortable sleeping with him until he gets tested. He might get upset, but he should understand. You don't want to go by his word-just because he says he's clean doesn't mean he is. Also, he might not even know he has anything, many stds in males have no symptoms. His primary care doctor can do a blood test and it's very easy. If he cares about you, he will understand. If he isn't willing to do it, he isn't worth staying with. Don't forget, you can still catch things from oral sex, so be very careful. Don't count on condoms either, they're always effective. Getting him tested is the right thing to do, it will save you a lot of worrying, and most of all, you're taking care of your body. If you're not sure about doing it yet, then don't...wait until you're 100% sure. Don't do it because you don't want to keep him waiting, all your friends are doing it, etc. Good luck!
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2006-08-12 04:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just come straight out and ask. If it causes conflict, so be it. You must protect yourself and you cannot apologize for that on any level. It doesn't matter if he has been faithful to you. (And tell him that you don't doubt this.) But what he could have been exposed to before he even met you could affect the rest of your life. No way around it. And as for your comment that you don't know if you're ready yet. If you don't know, you're not ready. Go with your instincts. They won't fail you.
2006-08-11 01:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask because he may not know! You have all the rights to ask! If you feel you can't ask him then don't do it! Make it your principle to ask this... if he doesn't like it, he'll want you to lose yourself for what he wants in the future too! Since you're going to give your virginity to him he must be special to you... it's very important to be able to talk anything with someone you want to be serious with in the future! Start now or there'll always be a grey area in your relationship.
2006-08-11 04:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by ggirl993g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him tested! I made my now husband (I too was a virgin)...it isn't hard to do and if he loves you he will understand that this is your body and you have to go what is right for you...having said that that doesn't mean no condoms...it just means that you are safe if one breaks or if you engage in other sexual acts...plus you are covered if he cheats on you (not saying he will but men are men) ps not just aids testing go for all infectious diseases
2006-08-11 02:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by irishboney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that if you love you you should want you to be healthy and that these tests are a prerequisite for sex. No tests no sex.
2006-08-11 02:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should totally ask him, tell him it will make you feel better and that its for not only your own good but his too
2006-08-11 02:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by incubabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋