Why so many people got offended from my last question...yoiu think I want to hurt him? Do you think I actually did this on purpose? People don't have to be so rude when they answer questions and say something like this: "I don't know whats wrong with girls these days they would rather have someone treat them like a dog than someone treat them like they should be treated." Yes that is true fro some girls today, but that's not true for me ok? I know I should be respected and not be told "I love you" by some guy who just wants sex. I know what most guys want from a relationship ok? I'm not some immature, stupid, little *********. I'm just greatly confused about how I feel for someone which is not my fault.
2006-08-10 18:42:09 · 12 answers · asked by K 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
There is a wonderful book called "A Marvelous Work and Wonder" that explains the very interesting truth about men and women. It explains on page 38 about how if a person comes on too strong to another person, the recipient pulls away. However, if the first person does a "toe dipper" or in other words just (metaphorically speaking) dips their toe into the water to get a reaction and see how the other person receives the hint, then PULLS AWAY or goes neutral, you will find you have begun to witness "the mating ritual", or the courting dance. Birds do it, cats do it, all animals do it. Try this. Drop a hint, then don't stay there. Log their reaction. You must initiate a response in a way that you want, or it isn't going to go in your favor anyway. The trick is to learn how to gain the right reaction. Unfortunately, this is a form of manipulation.....but everyone does it....it is just that some people admit it and some don't. Learn the mating ritual. Not how to have sex, but rather, the courting process that all mammals go through. And never reveal everything to someone who hasn't taken the same risk. Only reveal a little until they reveal a little. Back and forth, back and forth. If you can't get that process going, the other party isn't ready.
2006-08-10 19:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by aminomaniac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your hurt. I didn't read your previous question, but what I can glean from your new one is that someone treated you with disrespect, and was looking for something that you either didn't want, or weren't able to offer. Either way, you can learn that life is too short to waste time with that that isn't good for you, and the experiences that life has to offer will bolster your ability to determine which is which.
You might be confused, but you must also take responsiblity for your own feelings. Because, in the end, they are ONLY your feelings. What you do about how you feel actually IS your "fault", but I wouldn't use that word - I'd rather use the word "intention". Be honest with what you want in a person. That will clear your vision about fast-determining what a person may want in a relationship with you. If you feel secure in yourself, then you must also require that someone you get involved with is ALSO secure about themselves. Then, you move to the "intention" part, and things can go in opposite ways quickly then!
2006-08-11 01:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by Scott Rinke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your o.k., everyone goes threw emotions like that. You will eventually sort it all out. You are young, as you get older you will know how to deal with situations better. For now, trust your instincts. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. They don't call it growing pains for nothing.Just remember this to shall pass. Good luck.
2006-08-11 01:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Teslajuliet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not read your question. But all I can say is partner #1 reinforces partner #2 abuse (physical or emotional) if partner #1 allows it. But more over, if your feel love then you will accept anything from that partner. And even when partner #1 delivers the final deadly blow partner #2 will die loving him.
2006-08-11 01:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by emplifeon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what your questions was but i can see why you would be hurt. People can be cruel these days. remember that before you ask another question...just some friendly advice
2006-08-11 01:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Tawny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay.. i didnt pick that up.. Girls should be treated with respect no matter what happens..
2006-08-11 04:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by DARIA. - JOINED MAY 2006 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.....calm down killer. maybe you shouldn't air you're dirty laundry on the internet if you are going to get so over emotional. take a big breath and realize that no-one can tell you how you should feel.
2006-08-11 02:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by mypurpleelephant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go girl! dont let people judge you or tell you who you are. you know who you are. they dont. dont ever let anyone judge you. you are who you are and no one has the right to tell you who that is =]
2006-08-11 01:47:48 · answer #8 · answered by Kat+David=♥™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are cruel
dont let your guard down
watch your back
case solved
2006-08-11 01:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by Nope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And your question here is....?
2006-08-11 01:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by TheGuru 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋