2006-08-10 18:11:30 · 23 answers · asked by Jane G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
We already have one child who is five. He says we are just not financially able.
2006-08-10 18:17:33 · update #1
We already have one child who is five, but my husband says that we are not financially able. That is not true. We are more than financially able, he just don't want anymore. He is an only child and I quess he wants to raise one. First he said wait until he is a little older, then wait until he starts school. He keeps coming up with excuses.
2006-08-11 12:40:31 · update #2
Don't. That is being 100% deceitful and is disrespectful to your husband and your marriage. You would be better off finding out WHY he doesn't want to...
2006-08-10 18:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Margaret 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should take the child's well being into account here. If your husband says that you are not financially ready for another child, then maybe you should *listen* to him. Have you thought that maybe he's not saying he doesn't want another child, but would like to be able to take care of his children properly and feels that it's just not time right now for another?
Having a child is a huge decision. If your husband isn't agreeable, how do you think he might feel about a child that comes into the relationship just now?
Look at it this way... your man wants to take care of his family. For him that means keeping that family the size that it is. He wants to take good care of his family. I'd say that's a good man right there. Don't muck it up by trying to trick him into anything. Try to see things from his point of view.
2006-08-11 01:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by gonefornow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trick him, don't cheat on him. Talk to him... Find out why he doesn't want another child and find out the straight up honest answer you deserve as his wife. Make sure there's no BS involved. Just don't go in with an attitude. Go in as an understanding, caring, -concerned- wife who wants to know what's up. Tell him what -you- want and what -your- needs are. Maybe he'll see your side of things too and you two can come to an understanding. If not just wait a bit and bring it up again in a few months down the line. Keep bringing it up until he breaks down. It's a sensible, logical approach to get your way without tricking him and going 'Oops, I'm pregnant' that sh*t just ain't right.
2006-08-12 05:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by Krysti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to your husband, as he already told you that his financial are not ready for the second child. Thus, this is a very, very serious problem to look into it. At least your husband is frank to bring out this before the worst come in. Think about it carefully. Good luck!
2006-08-11 10:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer for now should be that you DON'T! You already have another child and it's obvious that your husband does not feel that you two are financially stabled to have another one...Just wait it out, be patient: "Patience is a Virtue" You both should have to respect each other decisions, and if your not stabled enough, wait until you are.
2006-08-11 02:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not try to do that, unless you want to put an unfair financial burden on your husband and struggle to raise a child you cannot support, who will be despised by its father.
Or, you can get an additional job to make some extra money to prove that you can support another child.
2006-08-11 05:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, my husband is the same way. We are both college graduates with good jobs, and we recently bought a 3 bedroom condo that were planning on staying in for awhile. It has tons of room for a baby, but he just comes up with excuses. I'm going back to grad school so his latest is when I finish school, men are completely frustrating!!!!
2006-08-11 20:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by Tyler's mommy <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you want this more than anything else in the world. Tell him you'll manage and work out a plan that will able you. U should be able to welfare payments. I plan to when I have a baby, why not if your entiled to it. My partner and me can't afford a baby, but were having one anyway. We know well be ok, theres always family that help buy everything. Go for it!!!
2006-08-11 03:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by brooke v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this, but you don't. It's not fair to try to have another baby if your husband doesn't want it. If you do he may resent you and you could be causing a lot of unnecessary problems in your marriage. Give him some time and maybe he'll change his mind, until then don't do anything. Don't pressure him into doing something he doesn't want, you'll regret it.
2006-08-11 06:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For god sake, stop yoir emotional immaturity. In the beggining a baby is wonderful but as he grows up there are lot of problems in this ****** world.
One is more then enough. Life is not easy. Enjoy with one and give him good education.
2006-08-11 15:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋