why do friends hurt us!!!!!?

Question

i need your help!! if ur friend hurt you, do you forgive her for what she has done....

Answer 1

it depends what she did.

Answer 2

friends hurt us because we care. if we didn't care, the things they do or say wouldn't matter to us. ironically, this means that both our friends and our enemies are closer to us than other people, because it matters to us what they do or say.

sometimes it hurts when our friends differ with us. we like them so much that we want them to share all our likes and dislikes. but that's impossible. everybody's different. you gotta be able to be happy WITH those differences.

sometimes a friend is careless, or insults us, or ignores us, or even does something that causes loss or physical pain. it's important to find out if that was intentional or not. if it was not intentional, then in most cases you should forgive (and your friend will seek your forgiveness). it could be a good idea, though, to try and work out any deep issues that might have caused the problem.

if the friend did something intentionally, then you should pause and reflect. If they've done this a lot, then maybe it's time to stop caring about them so much. Don't get in an endless cycle of hurt/apology; it's no good. Sometimes though, through something like this you can become even better friends, AFTER you understand each other better! Best thing to do is talk it out, when the time is right.

Answer 3

Forgiveness is not true forgiveness if there is no consequence.

How can the person learn from their mistake if you simply write it off and forgive them, without giving them the "punnishment" that they also will need to understand the penalty? Depending on the nature of the situation, ask yourself, How can I forgive them and still let them know a way of what they did wrong to me IS NOT TOLERATED. After the consequence is served, then you can think about the second step, the full fledged - - forgiveness.

Answer 4

well for me it depends on if she's done it like 100 times before. then i'll have to move on. also i talk to her about find out what happen from her side when u talk to her have an open mind not every thing is so cut and dry. Always forgive never forget she still has done what she did but by forgiving her your showing her that you were hurt but you understand that she may not have meant to hurt u and that you will choose not to bring up her mistake because we are not perfect.

Answer 5

I would have to say that it depends on what the friend did. I had a friend that had an affair with my ex husband while I was married to him. I didn't talk to either of them for 5 years. Then when I talked to him (he wanted to get back together and I thought he had changed), I learned that he will never change. He was still the same person. As for my friend, after talking to her I learned that was really sorry for what happened. I missed her friendship because we were like sisters. I forgave her, and now we are best friends again!

Answer 6

First you need to have a talk with her, let her know how you feel, you forgive her only if she apologizes. Not so fast!!... godd, good, good friends can hurt you if they just tell you what you don't want to hear.
sometimes we can't take the truth. Analize your situation and take it from there.

Answer 7

forgiveness is the easy part, Trust, has to be earned. fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
is this really a friend? Am I being hurt because I have expectations? if not, I need to consider is the relationship one I want to be in.

Answer 8

I would forgive , but I wouldn't be her friend anymore. I guess that why I have no friends. I am alot happier though

Answer 9

i thinks friends hurt us simply because sometimes its what they do but you should always forgive i just forgave my friend for something that really hurt me

Answer 10

what did she do..chop off ur dick...that u can not forgive...if she told a secret nothing big...or if she said something bad about u- it happens...so it really depends..what did she do?

Answer 11

everyone is human. would you want her to forgive you if you did sometehing that hurt her?