I just moved from Austin to Pittsburgh, i have a few friends but i do not think they are the best ones for me. They are complete backstabbers and Im not like that thank god! Well the other day they were making fun of this boy and I knew that it was wrong. They made me do the same thing.I dont want to lose the only people that I know but also I dont want to get mixed up in the wrong croud. My selfcontious tells me to push them to the curb but I tell myself to keep them becuase I dont want to be the one that was the one that wasn't cool. Im not like that Im scared. What should I do?
2006-08-10 17:50:47 · 19 answers · asked by Hugo P. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you truly like the people you are friends with, you should continue hang out with them. If not, try making some new friends. You are new in town, but that doesn't mean that the first people who are nice to you need to be your best friends. Join clubs or groups of similar interests that you have, get a part-time job... There are many ways you can meet new people. These people that you call your friends seem below your moral standards. Don't let them pull you down!
Good luck!
2006-08-10 17:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by vegtabletarian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, I agree with the popular vote; you need new friends. But here's some suggestions, since that is never an easy thing to do, Ive moved around my whole life. Find a hobby. It could be anything, chess, video games, dancin, bungie jumping, really anything. I suggest paintball if you could, I love the sport, and you dont need to be good at or experienced at anything. You could even go out on a branch and volenteer. Thats a great way to meet people. Just try to get out of the croud, either quickly or ease out of it. And you dont need to meet your new best friend ever instantly--meet people through new people you meet. If you meet someone, tell them your new in the area and want to hang out with them and thier friends sometime. One thing you have to be watching for, dont end up in the same hole you are in now, find some decent people like yourself. Good luck, you deserve it.
2006-08-11 01:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by Zanza D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are the same as you, and are pressured to act like jerks. Be a leader, not a follower. Find out if maybe one or two guys in your crowd share your sentiments, then form your own group and leave those other jerks out of the picture. If that don't work, try to find some club or activity you can get involved with, like a youth group, or some organization or church. You need to get away from it. I know it's hard. I have had to tell some of my so called friends that I didn't really enjoy thier company.
2006-08-11 00:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by The Bible (gives Hope) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They "made" you make fun of this boy? No one can "make" you do anything you don't want to. Be an individual and stand up for what you think is right. Making fun of people doesn't make you cool. Walking away from people who do, DOES. Let those jerks think what they want about you. I'd just find a new group of friends and leave that bunch alone.
2006-08-11 00:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump them. Make new friends.
The way to make new friends:
- Join a club or class that teaches something you are interested in. There are bound to be people there who are have the same interest(s) as you.
- Volneteer for an organization who's causes are inportant to you. You will definetly find good people volenteering and who's causes are close to your heart.
- Get a dog. It's impossible not to make friends when you have a dog. All dog owners talk to you immedietly.
Good luck.
2006-08-11 00:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a man start with an apology to the guy u made fun of. then proceed to join some group or club to make decent friends or go to www.myspace.com and find someone u have something in common wth and make new friends that way. goodluck on uer new move.
2006-08-11 00:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by blueducky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like them than still keep them as associates but not as ur always hangout with friends tyr to find some friends that you think will always be there for u through all situations someone thats not just gonna turn their back on you.
2006-08-11 00:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley_Get_itStr8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be ready to lose them, you will make new friends with the time gained from dumping the bad ones. Change your phone number, Dont ever call them they will get the hint. you may not be getting new friends now because your hanging out with bad ones. What comes around goes around.
2006-08-11 00:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it is a dilemma, I can see that. It sucks to be alone, but I think it sucks more to not be who you really are. If you act like them, people will assume you are an *** too. What do you want in your life? Ditch them and find new friends who aren't mean and nasty. Then you can feel good about yourself again!
2006-08-11 00:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by joandi_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your self concious is right but u r misled by your reputation.
try to correct them but if u can't then minimize your contact with them.
hlep those who r weak and they will strengthen your character that is the real meaning of cool. someone u doesn,t run away from dealing with real problems with the right attitude.
talk to your parents or another adult whom u trust they will point u to the right direction
2006-08-11 01:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by stardust 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋