I don't like to pursue this feelings because I am not secured and I respect his family! It bothers me all the time,please help me!
2006-08-10 17:36:47 · 9 answers · asked by Bruno 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Number one -- you are in love with him. Rather than fighting to not be in love with him -- accept it, that doesn't mean you have to act on it -- but denying it to yourself will not make it go away, and just makes things awkward.
Number two -- if he's your bestfriend, stop treating him differently or badly because you love him. That isn't fair -- and DON'T stop being his best friend, that isn't fair either.
These two things may mean that you have to spend some time being miserable IN PRIVATE. That's ok. The love and commitment that best friends have to each other often (usually) outlasts any sexual commitment either of you is likely to develop. It's worth the temproary pain.
Number three -- ( and this PRESUMES AS A GIVEN that he isn't also interested in you -- if he is, your respect for his family should be set aside and the two of you should discuss how you feel about each other and what that means. His family, particularly if you mean his parents, which I suspect you do -- should not enter into the equation long term -- what you have with each other is up to you two, not either of your mothers or fathers.) Find a boyfriend. If you are closeted and denying things to youself -- stop right now. You can stop, so do stop. Then, find someone to love and make love to.
The loving friendship you have with your best friend will settle back into a non-sexual mold then, and you will have a boyfriend, and a well loved best friend -- and everything will be alright.
Peace,
Reyn
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2006-08-11 03:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would usually say to stay away and forget it; don't mess with the family. But if the guy is gay he will end up having to deal with it sooner or later. If he deals with it on his own terms it will be easier than if someone else outs him. The wife will feel like she has lived a lifetime lie if he waits too long. This situation is not going to be easy no matter what. I would say not to do stuff behind anyones' back; stay away until things get figured out. Cheating is crap no matter why. Good luck and keep a level head.
2006-08-11 00:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Myr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just torturing yourself !! You really need to move or get counseling . That has got to be so hard for you . i cant imagine being in love with someone I see everyday and NOT being able to ever tell them . Well good luck and try keeping a journal and praying ,as those things are very theraputic.
2006-08-11 00:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he straight? Get over it! Nothing but pain will come from you loving him. Best way to get over a man is under a new one.
Is he gay? Go for it! If he is not with you then it would be with someone else. But if he is married - stay away. Just cut your losses and find a single man. Adultery is adultery and that is bad.
2006-08-11 00:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN AVOID this by lessening your time spent with him without totally ingnoring him. Meet other friends in your neighborhood.
2006-08-11 00:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No home wrecks please,move on
2006-08-11 03:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by maltese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet someone else. Don't be a home wrecker.
2006-08-11 00:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it whirl. Love dosn't come around often enough...
2006-08-11 00:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-11 00:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by hejhs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋