After a few years of soul-searching and torturing myself, I realized that I'm Bi. However, I haven't told anyone because my friends are not ready to hear something like that, and my parents are religious and also Old-Country so they are very narrow-minded when it comes to these things. I've sometimes felt terrible about this predisposition toward both men and women and I've beat myself up over this so many times. What can I do? Is it possible to "fix" being bi?
2006-08-10 17:27:06 · 4 answers · asked by Victoria C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't fix being bi. It is part of who you are. You can have exclusively heterosexual or homosexual relationships but you are still bi. If you are like most of us you are not right in the middle, you lean more one way or the other. And like most of us you may find that the needle swings one way or the other over time. Sometimes by the hour, day, week, or month. However, just like anyone else if you are in a relationship, love the one your with. I like one description of bi, "I love the person, not the gender." My all time fav is from the movie Better Than Chocolate..."hard centers, soft centers, I like all the chocolates in the box. "
So what you decide and who you decide is up to you. Know that in most cases your hetero friends will just think you are gay and need to come out of the closet. You gay friends will just think you are gay and need to come out of the closet. Bi is definately not easy in America at least.
So you can't fix it. You can make some choices but are they the right ones? Yes, your family may not take it well and really its none of their business. On the other hand, if you don't tell them will they ever, really, know who you really are? And can you deal with that? We are on this ride for a very short time. Don't beat yourself up over who you are.Tell them or don't but accept yourself for who you are and love yourself for it and move on. Easier said than done, true.
Hugz,
Tannim
2006-08-10 17:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by Tannim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are and be proud of it.
Your true friends will accept you for who you are and support you.
Now your parents are a different story.. I'm sure they will be shocked and not know how to react but once things settle and they have time to think about it they will support and accept you..
After all you haven't changed you are still the same person.
Good Luck!
2006-08-11 00:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being Bi or being Gay what goes on behind closed doors is your business if you take a Girl Friend home you need to do it with respect of your parents and be affectionate in front of them its your life be true to yourself.
2006-08-11 00:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by eaglerock60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant u accept who u are?
2006-08-11 00:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by hejhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋