I might have an abortion, If I don't i'm defineatly not giving my child up for adoption!?

Question

So i'm 7 weeks pregnant. I'm scheduled to get an abortion on tuesday, but might change my mind last minute.
i want a child in my life but at the same time im not ready to be there for him or her for. i dont have the strength to be there for a child currently. im still young and in school and dont have what it takes to be a mother even though i do love babies and would love one in my life. the thought of having a baby is wonderful but when you go into details and really think about it, it's NOT the right thing for me in my life right now. im not ready for a child.

anyway.. im wondering if there are any women out there who have given their kids up for adoption. tell me what its like...

i would never give my child up for adopted. after giving birth to a baby you are drawn to it and can no longer give it up... its ur little baby. its not so easy to give it up. so im wondering how mothers out there did it?

also why do people say not to have abortions but to give the child up for adoptions???
I think it is a little bit dumb to say "there are so many ppl who cant have kids but want to have kids so dont kill the baby, give a family a gift". i think it is common sense that there are sooooo many children in orphanages, foster homes, and other places waiting to be adopted. there so sooo many kids available for these "families that want kids but cant have them". so why do people say not to have an abortion because there are people who cant kids but cant have them?
open your eyes!! if there were sooo many people who wanted kif but couldnt have them then there wouldnt be ANY kids without families in this world.
DONT say there arent enough kids to be adopted. there are MILLIONS who are poor, suffering and dont have families and you anti abortionists couldnt care less, could you????

Answer 1

I agree with you 100%. I hate the pro-lifers who say "There are SO many people who CAN'T have kids but WANT kids, and there you are being selfish killing an innocent baby when you can give it to a family who truly wants a baby". That doesn't make sense!
I've been to my local orphanage. It's SO sad! There are SO many children in orphanages, and foster homes waiting to be adopted, and nobody cares about them. If there were really SO many people who can't have kids but supposedly want them as pro-lifers claim, then there wouldn't be any orphans in this world! This world is already SO over populated! There are SO many unwanted children in this world who have been waiting for a family to adopt them for years, and they have no luck, and they're already big now; they had to suffer being raised in a crappy orphanage with no real family their whole life. Why bring a child into this misery?

It makes more sense to abort it, than to give it up for adoption.

It sounds like YOU are NOT ready. Just have the abortion you scheduled. You're young, and defineatly not ready to support a child emotionally, financially, and physically, so don't have one. If you even CONSIDER abortion, that is a sign that YOU ARE NOT READY. Have the abortion.

I also agree with you that i'd NEVER be able to give my child up. Even if I was forced to carry the child, and it came into this unwanted, i'd change my mind once the baby comes out. How can you not fall in love with the little thing? I don't understand how somebody can give up their precious baby after it came out of them, after they heard the baby cry, after they saw the baby, etc etc. I would never give up a child, even if the pregnancy was unwanted. I'd resort to raising the child despite NOT being able to support him or her........
That's why abortion is a good thing, because it prevents things like that from happening.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I don't get it, are you asking for advice or trying to stir up a debate? Even though I'm pro-choice I agree with your so-called "anti abortionists" because in most cases the choice to have an abortion is irresponsible. Don't take the easy way out, you did an adult act, now take responsibility and stand up to what you've done! And yes, you did have a choice. You had the choice to use birth control, so don't even make that bad excuse. The least you can do now is give this innocent little baby a life (yes a baby, have you seen pictures of aborted babies at 2 months? They have two arms, two legs, a head, 10 fingers, 10 toes...) Even if you have to give it up for adoption. I don't understand your logic...you're willing to kill your baby, yet you wouldn't want somebody else to raise it? Well if you do keep the baby I hope you never tell it you were thinking about aborting it, how would you feel if your mother told you that?

Answer 3

It would be better to give a child up for adoption then having an abortion because a baby at any stage in pregnancy is a baby.And an abortion is murder.My friend had an abortion several years ago because she just was not ready at that time,and now that she wants a baby she cannot get pregnant,in her eyes that is gods way of punishing her.After her abortion she almost had a break down and still to this day she regrets what she did and she wonders what that baby would have looked like,if it was a boy or girl,She said she thinks about how she will never get to help that child chase butterflies and she will never see finger painting pictures hanging on the fridge and she says her baby would have loved her and all she did was kill her own baby.My friend was having to take medication for depression but stopped taking it on her own now.I have never had an abortion but i have had 3 m/c and that broke my heart tremendously.Another woman i dont know her personally but she got pregnant from a one night stand and got pregnant and had an abortion at 12 wks because she decided it would be to much on her raising a child as a single parent and after her abortion,once it really sank in what she had done she put a gun to her head and pulled the trigger.30 yrs old and ended her life,she had left a note that said"I had nothing to live for now"So please think long and hard before you make that decision because an abortion can affect you for the rest of your life.It is something you can never forget.Just remember that baby did not ask to be created and it is a human life that god has blessed you with,some woman never do get the chance at motherhood and some women the only chance they have at being a mother is by adopting a baby.If you cant give your baby the love he/she deserves please let someone else that can.Your baby is a precious gift that god had in his plans it's up to you if you accept it or not,but please dont take it's only chance at life away.That baby will have so much love to offer if given the chance,please i beg you dont take that chance away.The ultimate decision is yours please make the right one.And yes that baby is a person from the moment of conception that baby is a person.

Answer 4

what you do is your choice... but before you have an abortion look it up and research it... look at the pictures of the babies that are blown into pieces and stucked out of you! You had a chance at life why can't this baby.... I understand what you are going through... I had my first baby at 16 and I was still in school too... You seem like you have soft feeling about your baby inside you.... you think you may not be strong enough to have this baby but are you strong enough to have an abortion then be able to look at another persons baby and live with yourself ... especially if you end up regreting it??? Also remember a life long effect from abortions is possibley not being able to have childern in the future or having trouble conceving or carring a baby to term. I just think you should double think it over research about it and then decide. When people tell you to give it up for adoption because there are familys out there that would love to have this baby... there is many children to be adopted- your right, but many people would love to adopt a brand new baby... and when people adopt out of the country it costs alot more money then in country. There is nothing wrong with adoption.... you could also choose the parents. But like I said it is your choice and you have to be the one to make it.

Answer 5

So, I just want you to know, that I understand what you are feeling. I too am young and recently found out I was pregnant. It was very unexpected and unplanned. An like you I considered abortion when I found out. I am in my first year of college, and have so much going on that I wondered if I would be able to take care of this baby. And also like you, I know there is NO WAY I could ever give my baby up for adoption. If I am going to carry it for 9 months and go through everything. It is going to be mine...

But when it came down to it, there ws no way I could go through the abortion. I realized that for some resaon God had gave me this baby for a reason. And even though I may not know it yet, this so-called disaster could end up being a blessing. I didn't want to have to live the rest of my life wondering "What if?" or feeling guilty for a decision I made.

Also, I had to think back to one of my friends. She got pregnant our freshman year of high school. She was only 15!!! And she decided right away she was going to keep her baby. Everyone, including myself thought she was crazy!!! But today, I know she did the right thing. That baby has changed her life for the better. Even she admits today that she don't know where her life would be today if she didn't have her child. It is just amazing!! A true blessing!!!

One last thing....Have you heard the baby's heartbeat?? I think that is what finally changed my mind. I was almost set on abortion, until I heard that tiny heartbeat. It was an undescribable moment!!!

Just be sure you think this through, and do what is best. You know deep down what that is. Good Luck and God Bless!!!

Answer 6

Well I gave my first son up for adoption at the age of 17. I was in grade 12 and in this really crummy relationship. I didnt want to give him up but I knew it was the best thing for both of us. I was young and selfish and I didnt want to not be a good mom.
I went through an adoption agency and found him a great family. It never crossed my mind to terminate because it wasnt his fault he was there. I chose to give him life so he could live it and grow up and become someone other than some slime in the bottom of a vacuum tank.
It was hard I wont lie. It hurt. But seeing the pictures I get every month from his parents just reinforces my choice to give him life instead.
Listen to your heart. If you feel that abortion is the answer, then do it. No one can stop you from doing it. All I ask is that you weight the options. There are open adoptions now (which is what I have). You get to see them and get to be in contact.
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Answer 7

WELL I GUESS YOUR THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN MAKE A DECISION ON THIS..IF YOU DO ABORT THIS BABY..PLEASE DONT GET PREGNANT NO MORE..I GOT AN EMAIL THE OTHER DAY AND SEEN SOME BABYS THAT WAS ABORTED..I AM ALMOST 3 MONTHS AND I CRIED LIKE IT WASNT NOTHING... I JUST ASKED WHY WOULD SOMEONE WANT TO KILL THIER BABY...I GOT PREGNANT AT 18 I WAS SCARED I DIDNT KNOW HOW TO BE A MOM AND I HAVE GAINED ALOT FROM MY SON HE IS 2 NOW AND IM 3 MONTHS I COULD NEVER KILL A BABY...I WISH I COULD SEND THIS THING TO YOU FROM MY SPACE AND SHOW YOU HOW THESE BABIES LOOK..SO SAD...IF U CANT GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION GIVE IT TO A FAMILY MEMBER....WHAT IF THIS IS THE ONLY KID U CAN HAVE???? U HAVE TO THINK ABOUT THINGS LIKE THAT.....PLEASE DONT ABORT...BEST LUCK IN ALL THE DECISIONS U MAKE

Answer 8

Well....you know how babies are made right? If you weren't ready for one, then you should have thought about that before laying on your back and spreading your legs.

If you're responsible enough to do that, then as a human being you need to take responsibility for your actions.

The reason people say to do adoption rather than abortion is to give that child a fair chance at life (even if they do have to live at a foster home for a little while, at least they're alive!), it's not the child's fault that his mother is irresponsible. So, no it's NOT common sense to kill your unborn child instead of putting him/her up for adoption...that's stupidity.

You obviously haven't done enough research on Adoption if you actually think that there "sooooooooo many children waiting to be adopted"

There are also sooooooo many parents waiting to be able to adopt.

Don't try to argue a point in which you obviously know nothing about. No matter what decision you choose, in the future, keep your legs closed.

Answer 9

I have study abortions a lot and they hurt the baby dont get an abortion. look at some facts before you get an abortion. Every child deserves a chance to live it doesnt matter if you raise it or someone else does. PLEASE LOOK IN TO IT!!!!!!!

Abortion - Many young women decide to have an abortion because they believe it will be a quick resolution to a difficult situation. In a survey taken of women who have had abortions, 63% of them felt “forced” by other people into the abortion, and 74% of the women surveyed said they would not have the abortion again. Here is a story of a young woman who was pressured into having an abortion by her boyfriend. Are you experiencing this kind of pressure in your life? You have the power and the courage to understand the consequences of your own actions. Explore your options. Then decide what the healthiest option is for you. "Look inside REAL Choices" by Frederica Mathewes-Green, 1997

Answer 10

ok i had an abortion when i was 16 and then when i got pregnant again i decided to keep it. well when i was 4 months i lost the baby. i feel like God punished me for what i did to the first baby. so i won't ever do that again. i think adoption is better than abortion because you give your child a chance to have love. it was not thier choice to be in this situation and if you decide to keep it then you get to raise your child and it will change your life but you have to be responsible for your actions.