My relationship with my gf just ended some 5 weeks ago ( it lasted for 2 years and we went through 3 breakups, she initiated all), i am still thinking of her alot. i lov her still and of course i wish that we would get back together. Her reason for breakup was that she doesn't love me anymore ( no more special feelings) then i asked her if she would like to re-establish the flame , her response was that if it reestablishes it reestablishes ( in other words taking things as it comes). And according to her the best way of reestablishing the flame is to remain in contact with her. However i have read through many articles that i should ignore her and completely cut off contact and somehow one day she would return to me. so which advice should i follow? For your information i have been trying to contact her , she responses but she never initiates contacting me ever since breakup. what shld i do? i do want to get her back. but is that the best thing after all?
2006-08-10 17:15:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you love them
set them free
if they come back
their yours
if they dont
they never where.
2006-08-10 19:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey im am so sorry for what u are going through,, cause i am crying right now because of the exact well close to the same thing,,Me and my ex fiance just broke up last friday and he said the same thing about feelings.. the feelings just wasnt the same,,I myself dont understand how u can fall our of love, now i know the feeling wasnt the same but to me i like to work things out,,, I know the truth hurts but u have done your part, u have let her know that u still care but she has to want it to work too..U need to just try and let it go, i know its hard and if the feelings are there she will comeback. The first time me and my ex broke up and it was the only other time of 2 years, i wrote him a letter and then from there i left it in his hands, cause he was the one that broke up with me, i didnt wait around on him, well sorta but i tried to go on my life, didnt call him or go see him except for the letter and a few days later we got back together. well this time i dont think we will.. i just emailed him and thanked him for the wonderful few years he gave me and we agreed to remain friends.. But of course im still hurt and u will for awhile,, I mean do u really want to be with someone who cant decide what they feell..... Good luck and i hope ur feeling alright,
2006-08-11 00:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by *tattooe chick*** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a woman's heart is closed to you, it's closed. Whatever happened, there is nothing left. You have to be careful of how much you "contact" her. You are getting pretty close to stalking. If she hasn't initiated any contact with you, she is not interested.
By answering your calls, she is being polite. Apparently, she doesn't feel comfortable telling you to stop calling her.
Stop calling her, go on with your life. Let her go on with hers.
2006-08-11 00:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by *~*~*~~~His Angel~~~*~*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't re-ignite a fire from ashes. If your love has consumed all that is good and all that was pure, then all you have left is embers. you need something for kindling (metaphorically).
2006-08-11 00:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to be with someone that has broken up with you three times,put your time and energy into finding someone new and hopefully that treats you better.
2006-08-11 00:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by coolkid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋