I am married with 2 kids and my friend is also married with 2 kids. We have an email friendship going on for 3 years now but chose to keep it platonic and long distance even though we call our relationship, Love+friendship.
From the pst few months I have been trying to send him hints about ending it but my friend, even though quite happily married, does not want to. He tells me that he cares for me and that I am the only one in his life who gives him happiness. I want to finish it even though it might be painful for both of us as we are emotionally attached. I feel bad to say goodbye but I feel guilty about keeping in touch also. I need help as to what my next step should be.
2006-08-10 16:46:15 · 19 answers · asked by woman28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just suspend anytype of contact with him immediately, for the sake of your kids, your family and husband. (if you really care about them). well ask yourself wouldnt it hurt more your husband than breaking relationship with other guy? you have everything in life so dont run after such type of harmful relationship beyond marriage. those are false fantacies and that guy is playing with you, tricking on you. those type of emotions has no value. you can find thousands of men around you saying you can make them happy, does it mean you would make them all happy!
good luck. wake up please
2006-08-10 16:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by Deepthoughts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships outside of marriage are not a good idea. Take it from someone who has been there. Though you say it's platonic, how much time does this friendship take you away from your husband and family? Not just online time, but in your thoughts etc as well. I know how strong feelings can grow through letters. You share thoughts and feelings and you become close. If you are quite happily married as you say, you do not need outside male companionship or friendship. It's all about unfullfilled needs, what needs are not being met by your husband? Be honest with yourself. Do not jeporadize your marriage or your family for an online friendship. It's so not worth it. Just stop emailing him. Change your email address. If you are talking on the phone, stop. No good can come from this. Infidelity starts as friendship. Adultery can be emotional as well as physical. Be careful!!! Does your husband know about this friend. Spend your time working on your marriage, being a good wife and mother. Find female friends for companions. Don't risk hurting the people you love most the in the world, if you do, you will regret it. The hurt does not go away. It can also hurt your children in ways that will stay with them...Good luck and be wise.
2006-08-10 16:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The next step is you change your email address and never email him again.
Obviously he is trying to manipulate you into remaining in the relationship - trust me honey - it's a relationship and it's wrong for you.
Does he know where you live? your true name and address? if so - you need to get straight with your hubby right now and let him know what's going on and if you can't do this, then that should tell you something about your definition of your "love+friendship" relationship.
PS - a friend is not a friend who hangs on for dependency and makes you feel guilty - a male friend is not appropriate for a female (don't care what the TV show "friends" says)
2006-08-10 16:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next step you need to do is tell him that your relationship with him can never be more than a friend. If he can't agree on that then you have to stop emailing him. Ending it up will hurt you both but there will be lots of people involved that will be hurt more when they found out.
2006-08-10 16:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by amber200271 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason why you keep him around you need to think about what is going on with you and your husband that keeps you talking to this man and he needs to do the same. It is not fair for your spouse's if you are not happy with them or you feel for someone else. Think about it all and talk it over with your friend. If his wife doesn't make him happy then he needs to find out why and talk to her. Never cheat it is not an easy answer it only makes things worse,,,,,,,,,,, Good luck
2006-08-10 16:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, its defintely alright to stay as friends. Why should you end a friendship and why are you feeling guilty when you have not betrayed your hubby in anyway.
Its good to have a friend whom is concern about you and chat with you whenever you need him. Its so fortunate.
Stay as friend but not beyond ya. Good luck. Cheers
2006-08-10 16:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by flo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like he wants to keep a cozy cushion to fall back on just in case it doesent work out with the wifey.he also wants to stroke his male ego by seeng if he is still a charmer to the ladies and not just some old married guy.
2006-08-10 16:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm able to understand which you like some thing that's your man or woman. as quickly as a month shouldn't injury something. possibly you may propose a get with your artwork acquaintances and their spouses so as that your spouse can meet who that's that her husband needs to dangle out with as quickly as a month without her. possibly the spouses can create their very very own social gathering without you adult men. appears like she is appearing on her very own insecurities. Do each and every thing on your ability to help her understand which you in basic terms have eyes for her.
2016-10-01 22:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"love+friendship"?!?!?!?! u already stated its love!!! its wrong!! stop emailing him or not only will u hurt urself but also ur spouse and ur children...if his wife cant give him happiness then tell him to confront his wife not depend on u...u have ur spouse not for fun they are there to make u happy...just tell him u think it is wrong for both of u to continue this relationship cos if any one of ur spouse finds out it will turn sour...tell him it is for the good of both of u. if he cant understand then he must be a player and stop emailing him immediately
2006-08-10 17:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do U want to end? I have seen no reason from you. It is good to feel the way do and since it does not have any adverse effect on any life, why?
2006-08-10 16:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by ~Raju~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋