My "friend" said she wanted to throw me a baby shower. Months later I asked her about it and she said she didn't have any money to throw on, I told her not to worry about money that we could do one for cheap or nothing at all and even have it at my house. Well now I only have 4 weeks left until I deliver and she has avoided me for about a month now. I haven't asked her about it because I think it would be rude. So basically is it okay for me to throw my own shower? I really want on bad but can't ask anybody else to do it and I don't have any family. So... would it be bad for me to throw my own?
2006-08-10 16:16:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No! I dont think it's bad for you to throw your own baby shower. If you live in Dallas, I can throw one for you!! I'm sorry your friend is being immature and ridiculous. I absolutely think there is nothing wrong with throwing your own. Try to make it "hospitable" for others by "serving" them so that they don't feel "manipulated". A lot of people might say its wrong according to etiquette, but don't allow that to bother you. A baby shower is meant to be a blessing. Ultimately, you're the one hosting them. If I was in your position, I would indicate on the invitation, that you want all the "joys" of motherhood, including a shower, and unfortunately b/c of your circumstance with no family, you haven't been able to find anyone in aiding you to have it, so "free" them from bringing things and indicate that you just want their "presence" and then say, But if you choose to..... I am registered at..... You go girl! I'd do it if I were you! The key is in the wording and in the confidence. And, forget the friend!! LOL. Praying for ya!! nesschapman@yahoo.com, if you need to talk!
2006-08-10 16:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by If u're a kid, dont answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could ask a different close friend to do it?
I was kinda in the same situation for a little while, where my sister-in-law and mother-in-law said they were gonna throw me one, but then never planned it out. My mom and I ended up doing it all, and then on the invitations wehere it said 'given by' I wrote 'family and friends.'
I think that it would be alright to throw one on your own if there's no one to help you. You can make a registry (and if you do it at Baby's-R-Us, you get free invitations), but some simple decorations, and have it at your house, if there's enough room for guests inside and for parking outside.
You can also save money by baking the cake yourself, and by having simple snacks like chips n dip, a fruit tray, or pretzels.
Some people might think that would be tacky, but I think it would be allright. It's not like you were wanting things for yourself, the baby will need them.
I also like what was said above. You could throw a welcome party for the baby? Most people will bring a gift to that, too.
I'm very sorry that you didn't get to have one thrown for you. If you live near Cincinatti, I'll throw you one! sinisterdormeins@yahoo.com if you wanna know how I planned my shower out (or if you really are near here).
2006-08-10 23:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is inappropriate to throw your own baby shower. This is an event that a friend or even a family member should do for you.
I would suggest that if you really desire a baby shower, ask your best friend or mother (or mother in law) to host a baby shower that you will cover the cost of. And don't let on to the invited guests that it was your idea or financial coverage.
This way, on the invitations, it will state "Hosted by: [The Hosts Name Here]"
2006-08-10 23:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by Regina R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and throw one...you deserve it. However, I would avoid the 'raised eyebrows' you might get by calling it a shower and instead, call it a "baby welcoming party." You will still be honored and you will still receive gifts for the baby..without having to deal with the "taboo" part of throwing your own shower. And, since you are so close to your due date, I woud wait to have it until AFTER the baby is born. Perhaps about 4 weeks after (to let your body heal and to have time to plan, send invites, etc.)
Congrats, btw. Best of luck to you!! Here's hoping you have an easy delivery!!
2006-08-10 23:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure some would tell you it's against etiquette....
If you don't have anyone else to throw you a shower - than my best suggestion is to wait until after the little one is here and throw yourself a Post-baby shower AKA "Come meet the newest member of my family" shower. Look around online for ideas in reference this. Be creative with it and I'm sure nobody will mind :)
Best of luck!!
2006-08-10 23:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by mandabear3121 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that your friend did that to you, that must really hurt, since you thought she would be there for you. If it was me I would do it for myself if no one else could and you should do it for yourself if you can, eventhough according to etiquette someone else is suppose to throw it for you, at least you can still do it, that is all that matters. I have been there for both of my friends that are due in a month too. Just concentrate on your happiness, yourself, your baby, and your health. You deserve it for yourself and your new baby to bless you with a beautiful life that you can provide for him/her. Have fun, enjoy, and god bless.
2006-08-10 23:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer7228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would! You're having a baby and she/he should be celebrated. Go for it girl! And if people ask why someone didn't throw it for you, just say the truth! No one offerred to help! Maybe they'll feel guilty and give you extra presents :)
2006-08-10 23:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by ~∂Їβ~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you go ahead and throw yourself the best damn shower ever!! Sorry that noone did it for you but you just try to make the best of it!! Good Luck!!
2006-08-10 23:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy2Be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it wouldn't be bad to through your own...It's more common these days to hear women having there own baby showers and to me it make sense your celebrating the birth of your baby..
2006-08-10 23:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with it. Especially when you have no one else to do it for you. They have registries all over now so why not throw your own party?!?! You go girl, and have yourself a party. Good Luck!
2006-08-10 23:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋