2006-08-10 16:05:09 · 31 answers · asked by Anne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all you left out lots of important details. For example, how long you two have been involved. Whether or not your relationship is serious, or if it's just a fling? Whether or not it's just sexual, are you planning a future together? These things would definitely make an answer easier to come up with. Maybe his grown children hassle him about his relationships. Maybe, even though they are grown, don't want to replace their Mom. There are lots of things, lots of reasons. Have you talked to him about this? Does he know how you feel? Obviously you are hurting, and feel your relationship is lacking because of his decision to not introduce you to his children. My advice, if it is important to you. Talk to him about it. If you just feel lukewarm at this slight, don't make it an issue. Good luck. Remember he can't read your mind. You have to let him know in plain terms, not hinting around about how you feel.
2006-08-10 16:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is likely a better question for your lover.
It may depend on how long you've been lovers - or the fact that you are just lovers. Are there plans for you two to ever become more than just lovers? He may be embarrassed by the nature of the relationship and doesn't want to get his children involved - even if they are adults. The flip side of that is that he knows his children and may be anticipating a less-than-warm response from them. So he may be protecting you from their scrutiny. Children, like all family members, tend to be judgmental. They may not be as accepting of you as he would like them to be.
Or maybe they prefer to keep their distance and have opted out on their own. There are plenty of possibilities here.
But again, this is all speculation - the real answer is better asked of your lover during a candid post-coital moment.
2006-08-10 23:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by www.ayntk.blogspot.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking that here? We don't know your lover. There could be a number of reason including
They were rude to his last lover.
They resented his last lover.
His last lover was rude to them.
He does not want to complicate the situation.
He does not think of you as permanent.
He wants to be with you longer before doing this.
His kids are butt ugly.
He likes things the way they are.
He's lying to the kids about his life.
He's lying to you about his life.
He still has a relationship with their mom.
He doesn't want his ex wife to know his business (through the kids)
There could be untold reasons or none at all. Maybe his kids don't even talk to him. Ask him and see what he says. If you have only been with him a short while don't ask. I would never let you meet my kids unless they just popped in or I thought you were going to be around for a while.
2006-08-10 23:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by martin b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is his still married to his grown children's mother? r u just his lover or r the 2 of u in a serious relationship together? these are a few questions u need to ask yourself b4 making assumptions about why he hasn't introduced u to his grown children
2006-08-10 23:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by momatendofrope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just his whore..and he is probably married ,so why would he want to complicate his life .
I can't think of any other reason why he is shielding you from his grown children,except for those 2 .
2006-08-10 23:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he wants to get to know you better to make sure that you are the one for him, before he introduces you to his children. granted they are grown, but their father is still an influential person in their lives. so might just want to make sure that you are the one, before he jumps head first into it.
But the only sure fire way to know, is to ask him. if you aren't confident with the answer that he gives you, then perhaps he is trying to hide something.
2006-08-10 23:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by rabika97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because maybe they will give him grief and he doesnt want to be bothered, he just wants to enjoy you for you and not get the family involved because they are too opinionated. I'd just enjoy him and not worry about it. Maybe he already said something about you and they started crap with him. Be carefull what you wish for, if that is the case it might not be worth the aggrevation.
2006-08-10 23:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by ms.mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any idea other than perhaps he's still with their mother. Have you questioned him as to why he won't? Communication is the biggest thing in any relationship so you have to be able to talk about this and find out his reasons and explain why you want to and think it is important.
2006-08-10 23:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters how old is your lover b/c's sweety if he is way older than you and has grown childrin then you need to get a new lover besides him o.k well bye.
2006-08-10 23:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by halfpint_333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that he is unsure of the relationship. He may want to know for certain that it is going to last before he introduces you to his children.
2006-08-10 23:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋