My husband and I are talking and looking into an open relationship, We are going to lay rules that we both have to follow, it's still in the talk. Tell me what you think!
2006-08-10 15:54:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
great way to spice up your relationship and strengthen the bond youtwo have. just make sure you are both able to handle the whole intimacy with others thing. i was in a relationship like that for 3 yrs it was great.
2006-08-11 10:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by yuri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never really understood the point of this, actually. When people have to resort to this, it usually means the relationship is in trouble (and the couple is in denial), in which case it's better to just end the relationship and pursue the other options that are out there. Why go through the ceremony and vow to commit to someone just to turn around and disregard it by sleeping with other people- something you're only supposed to do with your spouse? You can make all the rules in the world, but they can and will be broken, because you can't logically put limitations on something like that. This is not going to bring you the pleasure that you might think it will, and nothing good is going to come of it.
2006-08-10 16:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An open relationship to me is when you and your spouse can see other people but the two of you are really close and the best of friends.Just not ready to settle down yet and one or both partners might need to still sort they're royal oats but after the storm clears and everything is said and done you guys will meet up at the end of the rainbow.
2006-08-10 16:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I do not think it is a good idea. A lingering eye, can spell disaster for a relationship, and eventually you will be trying to "1 - up" your husband. A marriage is a bond between two people. If you want an "open marriage" then don't get married, stay single.
2006-08-10 15:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by swimrun_bike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both need to want that or it will wind up in devorce so it is really what you believe in but it is a great idea to have ground rules that must be followed or the openness is just another way of splitting up with out the whole split every thing in half mess
2006-08-10 16:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by champ5360 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it works well for most couples. It usually means that one person already has the desire to or has already cheated on the other. This usually ends in divorce. Try it if you two are the openly sexual swinging type, but otherwise you might want to think about why you want to be with anyone else other than the person you married.
2006-08-10 16:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by at a snail's pace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooo, sounds tough if your married, but to me an open relationship means you are open for other sexual partners. The who, how many and how often is where its gonna get tricky. And your husband may end up pissed, its always easier for women to get laid.
2006-08-10 16:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you need to seek something from outside of your relationship, then your relationship doesn't contain everything that you need to be happy in it. Trying to find those things outside of the relationship almost always cause it to fall apart eventually. Work on your relationship or let your spouse find someone who fullfills their needs and you likewise.
2006-08-10 16:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by el 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both agreeable to it there is no reason it shouldn't work. If I were you I would write the ground rules down somewhere to avoid any misunderstandings later on.
2006-08-10 16:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not open to this idea because I think that you are sacrificing your marriage for sexual pleasure. Why did you get married in the first place, why not stay single!
2006-08-10 16:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by chrissiewild79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋