My brother and I both work for ourselves. we work together but seperate. anyway last week I was helping my brother out when he was in a bind with a big job and could not get all his work orders done. In the middle of doing some of his work, my car broke and was in the shop for 2 days last week and 2 days this week. just got it back Tuesday afternoon. he is mad at me because one of the jobs had to be done by no later than Monday. it did not get done. he knew about my car and he even refused to let me borrow his truck so I could work on Saturday. He threw a fit today and started yelling at me about this, saying I made him look bad... and caused him to lose business. he was yelling and going on about it in front of our kids. I left my parents house to stop the scene my kids and his were watching. How do I handle this? we work together, he is my brother and he was a jerk...
2006-08-10 15:51:12 · 3 answers · asked by concerned mom 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Small Business
YOU'RE IN A TOUGH SPOT. YOUR BROTHER APPARENTLY CAN'T HANDLE THE FACT THAT HE COULDN'T FINISH THIS WORK ORDER. HE'S PROBABLY THE KIND OF MAN THAT WILL BLAME SOMEONE ELSE FOR HIS MISTAKES; AND THE BOTTOM LINE IS HE WAS THE ONE BEING HELD ACCOUNTABLE AND HE COULDN'T DELIVER. I HOPE FOR YOUR SAKE AND YOUR FAMILIES' SAKE THAT HE WILL COME TO REALIZE THAT HE WAS THE ONE THAT IS TO BE HELD RESPONSIBLE FOR THE LOSS, NOT YOU. YOU WERE TRYING TO HELP, NOT HINDER. HE NEEDS TO APOLOGIZE TO YOU AND THE FAMILY FOR MAKING SUCH A SCENE. ESPECIALLY IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN. HE NEEDS TO GROW UP.
2006-08-16 12:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by popcopgoldieoldie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard working for and with family members especially if the standards of work don't equal out. If I had been you, I guess I would have rented a car to get me through the days my car was in the shop- or bummed a ride from someone (but obviously not your brother) Sometimes you have to go out of your way to prove that you can be reliable- even if your brother could have easily lent you his truck.
You might want to re-think this " I help you- You help me" stuff. You need to agree on when you or he help each other. If you can see a couple days ahead, scheduling your job or his to get done would help. Communication and planning ahead sounds like skills you both need.
Totally uncool to scream at each other in front of kids- scares the He-- out of them.
Sit down and cool off. And then present a plan on how to prevent this in the future. Take the high road- no comments on what happened. Just present solutions and talk.
And if you can't work it out- well think of how to go your own way.
He depended on you and you didn't come thru. Own up to this.
Yes he was a jerk- but you put him in a bad position.
2006-08-15 00:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up!
2006-08-10 23:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by bullsfan_1971 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋