My brother and I both work for ourselves. we work together but seperate. anyway last week I was helping my brother out when he was in a bind with a big job and could not get all his work orders done. In the middle of doing some of his work, my car broke and was in the shop for 2 days last week and 2 days this week. just got it back Tuesday afternoon. he is mad at me because one of the jobs had to be done by no later than Monday. it did not get done. he knew about my car and he even refused to let me borrow his truck so I could work on Saturday. He threw a fit today and started yelling at me about this, saying I made him look bad... and caused him to lose business. he was yelling and going on about it in front of our kids. I left my parents house to stop the scene my kids and his were watching. How do I handle this? we work together, he is my brother and he was a jerk...
2006-08-10 15:18:05 · 7 answers · asked by concerned mom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first let him cool off. if he is not normally a jerk then maybe he vented on you over some other issues. let him know that he played a role in his loss of business, how important to him was this job, because a true business man will get the job done under whatever means necessary ( boring his truck). so he needs to evaluate how he is operating, also let him know that he needs to make sure that he is not taking on more than he can tackle. put the facts in his face ask him what would he have done if the shoe was on the other foot.
Let your brother know that you love him and that you should not mix your personal life with your business life(he had no right to bring this to your parents house) if he has a problem with the way things ended up then as his partner he should have discussed this with you on a business level . he treated you as if he was your employer. it was just as much his responsibility as it was yours to make sure things went smoothly. he needs to realize that just because you are sibliings he does not have the right to treat you that way.
I would also let him handle his load for a while so that he can rebuild his appreciation of you as his partner and sister. under no means should you let this come between the two of you. Give him a piece of your mind just as he did you. Remind him you are not his employee you are his partner and he will respect you as such! Then give him a big hug and tell him you love him no matter how mad he gets at you because you know he just a natural ***!
2006-08-18 11:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by purpleartof5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he was a jerk but since the two of you grew up together he figures he can treat you like he did when you were younger. He should have let you use his truck. You'll just have to be the mature one here and refuse to go to his level. Hold your head high and let whatever he says bounce off you. When he cools down maybe he'll realize his error but don't hold your breath. Men don't like to admit when they are wrong.
2006-08-12 23:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were smart to get your kids out of that situation. Give him a couple of days to cool down and he'll probably feel like the jerk he was. Sounds like he's stressed about the job and having a hard time keeping up. If I were you, I wouldn't offer to help him again any time in the near future, unless he apologizes and thanks you for the help you've already given him. Maybe you should just both agree to do your own work in your own time. Hope it works out.
2006-08-18 17:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down, shut him up, and tell him you were there to help, but the timing just wasn't right, thanks to your car. Tell him that he needs to understand that HE came to YOU, and you tried to do your best. Tell him the way he treated you was wrong, when all you tried to do was help him.
If he still doesn't see that he was wrong and acting like a fool, just tell him from here on out, that you won't be able to help him anymore if he can't appreciate it.
Just don't yell, try not to show your anger or frustration, and play it cool. Keep in mind that you're in charge, and without him, he would have gotten less done.
Goodluck.
2006-08-18 15:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have told him it was his fault.He did not let you use the truck to get to work,and he knew you'r car was down.So he is the one who made himself look like anA**.Secondly it is wrong of him to yell and speak to you in front of the children.You need to tell him that it is uncalled for and you refuse to be spoken too in that way,especially in front of the children.Just because he is your brother does not give him that right to disrespect you.Good luck.
2006-08-18 09:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he is a jerk
if you were anybody but his sibling, he would probably have a lawsuit on his hands.
write him a letter telling him what you told us. if he knew that you didnt have a way to get there, if he was so worried about it, he should have made sure that you could have been there.
2006-08-17 01:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont want him to get fired. You could have rented a car in that situation.
2006-08-18 09:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋