Should i choose abortion?

Question

Im 17 right? And my bf and i had sex and now im pregnant. my Bf wants me to have it. My parents have like, dissowned me and my friends say i should get an abortion. What do i do?

Answer 1

Go to a Planned Parenthood or similar clinic and talk to a counselor who will help you figure out the path that's best for you. Please be sensitive to the father's feelings. I know he's not the one who has to have the baby, but there's no need to totally disregard his wishes. Maybe you two can talk to a counselor together. Search your heart. Whatever you decide, this is something that you'll remember for the rest of your life. Trust me.

Answer 2

I don't think that abortion is the right option it can screw your body up forever and you could never have kids again. I think that you should have the baby because you have to remember this is a living thing inside of you!! That is your flesh and blood it is 1/2 you!! Do you want to kill your own child?? If you don't want to keep it you don't have to there are options for open adoption where you can be involved with the baby or straight up adoption. My sister went through this and her bf wouldn't let her get an abortion and now they have a beautiful 13 month old daughter and they are together taking care of her and my sister couldn't be happier, your parents will get over it trust me!! I was in that position my mom got over it and she was actually really excited to be a grandma. I also think that the father of the child has a choice in this situation because that is part of him too!! You have to think about all of the important parties involved like you, your bf and the unborn child those are the most important parties involved right now no matter how your parents feel!

SOME PEOPLE DON'T REALIZE WHAT A GIFT IT IS TO HAVE A REAL LIFE GROWING INSIDE OF YOU!! GOD GAVE YOU THAT GIFT AND IF YOU HAVE AN ABORTION YOU ARE THROWING THAT GIFT AWAY!

Answer 3

Whatever you want to do. Chances are your boyfriend won't stay with you forever and you'll be left taking care of the child yourself. The damage is done with your parents, so their wishes don't really matter. And your friends don't matter either, this is your body. Think about what you really want to do. If you aren't ready for a child, have an abortion. If you want to raise a kid, then go ahead and have the baby. Adoption is also an option, but you still have to go through with carrying the child and that could effect your education and your body.

Some people are probably going to say something about "abortion is murder." But a fetus is not a human. It can't feel or think until the third trimester when few abortions occur. Ultimately the decision is yours, so screw what everyone else thinks and do what is in your best interest.

Answer 4

no please doin't have an abortion, it doesn't matter what your mom or dad or your friends think, you dissown them, that will be the most important thing in your life and the best thing.to me a child is a gift from god.i want you to no that even if they dissown you will still have your baby and it will be yours something no one can take away unless your an unfit mother.cause i'm here to tell you i would lay down tonight and die for my son there is no love stronger than what you will have for your child.even if you are only 17 still doesn't matter cause when you started having sex you new that was apart of it, and to me you doin't have very good friends,if your pregnant take the responablity, your no longer a girl your a young women,and you should do what's right the baby was not asked to be brought in this world it's not right for you to have an abortion and kill an insint baby, cause when you find out your pregnant it is already a baby.so to me that's murder, and i think it should be against the law.you will regret it if you do i promise.that will be on your mind for the rest of your life.

Answer 5

do what you feel is the right thing for urself you cant let anyone judge you. I had an abortion in March the abortion pill and im still depressed over it, but yet my story was a little different,
You need to think about it long and clear, but you dont have all time, if your a few weeks try to get it done within that time
heres somthing the clinics will never tell you, the depression afterwards. If you feel you can take care of it , if you have a job, if you will finish school, have a good support system go ahead and keep your baby. But if you know in your heart its not the right time for you , give yourself another chance to live your life
people make mistakes

Answer 6

If you don't want to have a baby right now, then the issue is
strictly a moral/religious one. Could you live with yourself
after killing your unborn child? (I'm deliberately using harsh
words because that really is the emotional issue. If you can
say "yes", then do it and do it safely while you still have the
legal right to!)

Could you stand to bring the child into the world and then
give it away for adoptions? Yeah, having a baby is a pretty
big stresser, but it will have a beginning, middle and end.
Be forwarned: When you have it, there will be huge part
of you that will want to keep it in spite of all of the practical
elements.

If you'd like to have a baby and keep it, then is your boyfriend
going to help you raise it? Do you think he would be
competent to do so? Could the two of you succeed with
help from others around you? Do you have others around
you would be willing to help?

There is NOTHING simple about having an abortion, but
for some women it is the right answer.

Have your parents really "disowned" you in the legal sense
or are they just pissed off and will come around? Did there
anger stem from your pregnancy or did something happen
earlier?

Remember: If you have it, your boyfriend is legally part
of the picture. That is, he is the biological father and has
rights. He may, for instance, want to keep it himself even
if you don't want it.

Answer 7

I'm not going to get all religious on you here. Everyone has their own beliefs. My thought though is that abortion should not be used as a method of birth control. Did you guys use any protection? If you did and you still got pregnant...maybe it was meant to be. Who knows, maybe the child you are carrying will grow up to find the cure for cancer or AIDS.

There are plenty of people out there that would love to have a child and can't. If you really don't feel you're ready to be a parent, you could make someone very happy by giving the baby up for adoption.

You're almost legally an adult now. It's time to take responsibility for your actions. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

ok, the voice of an old lady, I'm 38 now and found myself in your position at your age.I had the abortion. I am not recommending it to you, because it is your right to choose. There are times it weighs on my mind still...and i'll never forget the damn protesters calling a murderer when I left. Of course I did ask them how many crack addicted orphans they had adopted....they shut up fast. Abortion is not the easy way out. Can you and your bf cover the costs of raising a family? Do you have the patience to be up ever 2 hours to feed or rock a colicky baby? Would you consider adoption? You and your bf need to sit down and plan you future with or without a baby. I don't regret my decission, I am very, very prochoice. Maybe talk to some one at planned parenthood? And I would personally love to give your parents a piece of my mind. Not to be presumptuous, but they are blind not to see that this is when you need their support the most. Take time to make the right choice for you, but think realistally, and remember if you do choose to terminate the pregnancy you must do it before (i think 12 weeks???) good luck.

Answer 9

You need to do some deep soul searching on this one-in the end it is your decision. I don't know what kind of plans you have for your life but a baby at 17 would be VERY difficult. Your going to have to decide if you want this baby enough to sacrifice some of your own dreams for it. Also, babies have a way of making parents come back around. Yours are probably very scared b/c they're worried about your future and are just disppointed. They will probably get over it in time. Educate yourself about abortion. Some people are very affected emotionally by. If you're not absolutely ok with it,then don't do it. If you decide on adoption, it's just putting your life on hold for nine short months and there are plenty of adoption agencies that will pay your expenses and help you find the right family for your baby (some even have homes for you to stay at free if your parents have kicked you out.) I know you're scared right now but follow your heart and you'll make the right decision.

Answer 10

What you do is go somewhere by yourself... take a pen and paper...make two columns. List the pros and cons of this decision. Then you write out your REAL feelings on this matter. What do YOU want to do? What CAN you do? Are you ready to be a mother - most likely a single mother w/out much support from your family, from what I'm reading.... Or do you go ahead with an abortion and wait until you are ready to be a mother.

Everyone's opinions on abortion are different. As long as you're not bound to any specific thoughts due to religion, culture, etc... I say you should come to your own decision on this matter. Read up on abortions and what the method entails. Read up on teenage pregnancies... Talk to a counselor.

Know ALL of your options sweety and really weigh out this decision. While an abortion is easy enough to have, the decision is one you make that will be a part of your soul. You must be 100% sure of your decision to be comfortable with it the rest of your life. Best wishes in whatever you decide hon. Make sure it is THE right decision for YOU!

Answer 11

Chances of you getting an Unbiased opinion on here are pretty slim. I won't tell you my opinion, just give you some facts.
1. remember you will have to live with the consequences, the regret, the doubt and the pain.
2. Just because you have an abortion, doesn't mean its over.
3. Down the road, what if you can't have children. (it happens, infection, just bad luck what ever the reason)
4. Once its over you can't change it.
5. You may be pro abortion today, but are you going to feel that way in 10 yrs?
6. Your Boyfriend, your parents and your friends DO NOT have to live with the consequences, forget their opinions. Ask yourself, why your BF wants you to do this?
This is also his child, he seems to have come to this decision with no problem, how does that make you feel. That if his child is disposable, why wouldn't you be? You may need to change BF, if he's just wanting to get out of responsibilities, is that the kind of man you want?
7. You are 17 almost an adult, you made the conscious decision to have sex that is an adult decision. If you are old enough to make that decision, you are old enough to live with the consequences.
8. Sure its your body, and your choice, but your fetus has nerve endings and feelings. It can hear your voice, has a heartbeat. Knowing all of this are you READY to deal with that. Knowing when they inject him/her and start stabbing and scraping away at them, they will feel everything that is going on. You have to be able to live with that.
9. It all comes down to making an INFORMED and ADULT decision. Taking responsibility for your actions. You made your bed, now lie in it.