I am a fem and I am only attracted to fems. But I have noticed that finding a fem that likes fems is like finding a needle in a haystack( or maybe it's just my area, Chicago) Anyway, since I can't find a fem that likes fems, should I do option #1- Start dating studs/butches, or option #2 Become a stud so I can get all the fems?
There is also an option #3- Pretend to be a stud, then after I get a fem, go back to being a fem.
2006-08-10 15:04:36 · 15 answers · asked by indrep33 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have dated studs before and they were not for me.
2006-08-10 16:00:20 · update #1
I'd probably just keep looking for fems. You shouldn't date studs if you aren't really attracted to them, and you shouldn't become a stud just to attract fems. Stay true to yourself and the right fem will come along.
2006-08-10 15:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by holidayspice 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm a so called fem and I like fems and studs and butches. We are out there honey. Be yourself and keep looking. I had a hard time finding a lesbian to accept the fact that I'm bisexual and that I'm not a "risky investment" because I like both sexes. We have all these preconceived notions that there are only certain types of people out there and it just isn't true. They're are plenty of fems who exclusively like fems, keep looking. And by the way I live in Chicago too.
2006-08-11 10:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a fem with a fem. Come to New York, and you'll find what you're looking for. We have so much variety to choose from. I think it's sexy when two fems are together, for the simple fact that you don't expect it.
2006-08-11 04:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by graciefaith1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont "become" a stud... if youre butch youre butch... thats typically not a chosen thing no more then sexuality.... you can dress more butch ... but you willprolly find that if your mannerisms dont match up to the level of masculinty as your appearance... youll prolly do more harm then good.. I suggest if youve never dated a butch women to try dating a few of them... dont base you who opinion on butch lesbians on one or two women... if you find you just cant get into it... then go back to searching for a femme women...
If you pretend to be a stud...to attract a femme its prolly gonna backfire... 1 most femmes who date butch women primarily will know right off the bat youre not the real deal... and wont give you a second thought... and if you do manage to fool them.. once you attempt to switch back to femme... they are prolly gonna drop ya like a 3 month old used dental dam...LOL chances are if they thought you were butch when they started dating you its because they wanted to be with a butch... good luck
2006-08-10 15:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Levi Cristopher . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a fem dance or gathering and join in. They are everywhere in every city. Just have to look. Check your local GLBT group
2006-08-10 15:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by onlyonemeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't change because in the end you won't be happy in the relationship. Stick to being you and keep an open mind about what type of femmes you want to date. Ask yourself if you are being too picky? Are you only looking for certain characteristics (this can narrow your pool of available people)? Are you always going to the same place to meet people? Mix it up.
2006-08-11 11:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by CuriouslySpeaking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reincarnation im no longer involved in yet an afterlife could be astonishing like heaven.Im no longer afraid of dying or of there being no afterlife yet after leaving this lame sh1tty earth as you call it it would be astonishing to adventure a place that isn't lame and sh1tty.And the place i will stay continuously happy with no concerns.
2016-12-11 06:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by woolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, dont become one & yes you may like a soft butch. i was like you, looking for that beautiful femme, then bang out of the blue a butch came into my life, slowly i went into the relationship and now 1.5 yrs later im still in it. you mind find that you will be spoiled and find great happiness if you find the right butch. there is no drama in our relationship, just normal life and good times so far. good luck!
2006-08-10 15:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What part of Chicago are you on westside, eastside, southside, northside? I'm on the westside and I see plenty of fems&fems together.
2006-08-10 15:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by Necole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on being who you are and looking for what you really like. Don't compromise anything and what you want will happen. Just be patient. Relationships are hard to find no matter who you are and what you look for. Hang in there!
2006-08-10 15:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by torabis80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋