Think it's time to...?

Question

Do you think it;s the best time to end things when your bf tells you...

sixxx : I doubt my love for you
sixxx: And our future together
greeneyes: you dont think you love me anymore?
greeneyes: Sixxx?
sixxx: Not like I used to. No

When i told him it's probably best that we end things he tells me i am just trying to run and hide instead of finding solutions. I am so confused and sad right now. Any advice??????

Answer 1

Greeneyes,

Consider yourself lucky in a way. Your sixxx is being honest with you, which is more than most people can hope for. This news must be very hard - it always is when you love someone and think you have something only to find out you really don't. FWIW, I've been there, and so have millions of others.

He isn't trying to break up with you, instead he is just telling you how he feels. Maybe you will wind up apart, but it sounds like he is just being open. It sounds like he wants to explore his feelsings - maybe to see if this is just a lul, if he has just gotten bored, or if he really has moved on emotionally. The fact he wants to explore this with you is a good sign. Many guys would simply end it.

The earlier poster mentioned the old saw about new relationships and the "red hot sex." There might be something to this, as guys often equate their feelings of love with their lust. Maybe he doesn't lust after you the way he did earlier. It happens, no matter how good-looking you are or how good you are in the rack.

Have a good cry, then get yourself together. Be prepared that this might be the beginning of the end while you talk to him about how things are going, and be honest with him and your feelings. Let him be honest and open as well.

It might turn out that you mutually decide to stay together or split or see other people. If you were really meant to be together, he will eventually come back to you. If you weren't, better to find out sooner rather than later.

Good luck,
C

Answer 2

i think your bf said it right there. He is basically telling you that it's not going to work and there is not going to be a future with you. Mutually break up and say it's probably for the best. There is no point at all in trying to stay in a relationship if 1 party has already packed it in. What confuses me is is last comment asbout you trying to run and hide... he was the one hinting at a break up.... maybe he is trying to lay the blame on you? Either way, the prognosis is not good for a last relationship so don't waste anymore of your precious time and move on.

Answer 3

If he said that he doesn't love you like he use to and he doubts his love for then it's sounds to me like he is trying to put the ball in your court and force you to end things. I know that when I had relationships that ended in the past, things like that were said. By your other questions that you posted you seem very sweet and I think that you probably deserve better. I think that your right and it's time to end it, but it looks like you, being the more mature one, is going to have to be the one to do it.

Answer 4

If you're the one running and hiding, then why is he telling you that he doubts his love for you? Make him make a choice...you or someone else. That way, he has to decide whether he wants to be with you or not. If he can't decide, then decide things for him.

I hope this helps you and best wishes in whatever comes along

Answer 5

the way people love each other changes
@ the start it's all red hot, and then after that honeymoon period, guys start to freak out, cuz the love feels different.. instead of wantin red hot sex, he just want to be with you in your company... althuogh he does still want the sex, just not like he used to... I think you should sit down with him n talk about it b4 u make n e rash decisions... lots of pplz have second thoughts about relationships, it's a normal thing to do!!!

Answer 6

Don't be sad and confused. Your heart saying get out so just move on and find some happiness for yourself.

Answer 7

I think that it's time to leave if he's doubting his love for you. You deserve someone that knows how he feels about you.

Answer 8

honey it's time. it soundslike he's just trying to make it sound like u wanna end it but obviously if he tells u that then he wants to end it. just do it before u get more hurt.

Answer 9

just say u need some space and time to think if he loves you he will understand and give you some freedom

Answer 10

if that is a picture of him on your 360 page.... dump his butt. He looks like he is 20 years older than you.