Married Women only, a question.?

Question

I am a teacher. In my district, school starts very early so I am home at 3pm or so. I do all of the laundry, cooking, vacuuming and other cleaning, dishes, grocery shopping, keep track of the finances and mow the lawns. I drop off and pick up the dry cleaning, medicines, etc.

I don't mind it at all, but it would be nice if my wife would admit every now and then that she has a pretty "good deal." She claims that all men do this much around the house these days.

Is that true, do your working husbands do that much?

Answer 1

Holy crap! You make a good wife!!
My husband doesn't do any of that. He thinks he doesn't have to because he goes to work and I stay at home with the 3 babies. He thinks I don't need any help. LOL!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Yes, I have to admit, my husband does all of that at our house + takes care of 2 rental properties. That is the ONLY reason we are still together. He is all work, and no play, I HATE it. He will stay home and vacuum before he takes me out to dinner or take me somewhere. I literally have to 'drag' him to some place fun. We are never together. I am always taking the kids somewhere fun while he is doing the laundry. ~It can wait. Stop the cleaning and come have some fun with us. NO NOT HIM. I am so lonely. You other ladies, say we are lucky to have a guy like that. -You have no idea. Yeah, so the house is clean, but your wife is going to leave your *** because you don't know how to have fun. I've already told him a million times, to start having fun or I am gone. ~Well one year later, I am sadder then ever. Is the house more important than your wife? Apparently to my husband it is. I hope that you do not neglect your wife. Best wishes to you.

Answer 3

Frankly it sounds like she has it pretty good, pampered is the word that comes to mind.

You sound like a good and caring husband, but you are going to feel like a controlled puppy as the years go by and more and more duties are added to your chore list.

I kind of believe in tough love...I've always had to fend for myself and am pretty well a Jill of all trades...there is nothing I cant do! LOL But then that makes me kind of like you where my family and husband expect me to do it all.

But I put my foot down years ago and retrained this family and now we all have duties and when things need to be done we're a team and we just stop everything, take a half hour or hour and get done what needs to be done....you would be surprised how much can be accomplished that way whereas I needed days to do it all on my own before, now we all have chores, nothing that overwhelms anyone but we function a whole lot better as a result.

So awful as it sounds you have to train, or teach people how to work together as a team. That's true in a marriage too. When you have kids you will be even more swamped so you are doing yourselves a favour to function better and I suggest your wife get going on that cooking business...what are you goign to do when the kids come along? All those veggies to cook and mash etc. etc. etc. :-)

Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm a male, and absolutely had to chime in. I do EVERYTHING that YOU do, even pay the rent and do the dishes. Now, I work 2nd shift, so I don't cook any dinner or anything, but I do have to say my wife has a pretty sweet deal having ME as a husband. But honestly, I think you hit the nail on the head, I don't think most men DO that much around the house, and a woman that finds a guy "That good" KNOWS for FACT she has to "keep him around", so I say kudos to you for that. Just remember, once the appreciation dies off, so do the extra chores, :-)

Answer 5

Im sorry but your wife better be happy you do that for her because the other man get home sit in front of the T.V. and when the wife gets home kids are evrywhere the house is a mess and has the nerve to say honey whats for dinner. So let you wife know that you are a KEEPER that she is very lucky to have someone like you. She is a winner to have you. And its not a pretty good deal its a great deal. My husband helps me around the house and i always tell him that i love him for that and i appreciate him for helping me more than he should.

Answer 6

My husband is an awesome handy man, bread winner, cooks, does laundry, goes shopping, takes care of the bills, and is a great step dad to my kids!!! I do help out a little. Ha!Ha! Seriously, I help out just as much, but it is nice to have someone you can count on to be able to help out. By the way, my husband works around 50-60 hours a week. Quit complaining, and tell your wife she should appreciate you more. I know I couldn't live without my man.

Answer 7

She has a GREAT DEAL. No, most men do not do that much around the house. I'm lucky to get my husband to do a few dishes. His job is to take care of the outside of the house and the trash. I do the rest. It's nice to hear a man spoiling his wife though.

Answer 8

Whoa! When I read this I thought...this has to be a joke, lol. You are completely taken for granted. It's always so nice to see a man who doesn't mind to do a few things around the house and here you are doing just about everything and she doesn't even seem to appreciate it. I'm sorry to hear that. I bet if you stopped cold turkey, she sure would notice, lol.

In answer to your question, my husband doesn't do that much around the house, but he does work two jobs...so I don't expect him to. Anyhow, I think you need to read these posts to your wife..maybe it will open up her eyes a bit. Hope this helps!

Answer 9

Joe, I'm a guy who did the same things you did, and I'm also a teacher. My ex NEVER appreciated it and we ended up getting a divorce. Fortunately it wasn't for cleaning reasons. Maybe your wife is related to my ex? Sit down with her and have a list of everything that has to be done and each of you choose what you'd like to do so it's 50/50. I never had a problem doing most of the chores during the summer when school was out, but during the other three seasons, well, don't stand for it.

Answer 10

My working husband doesn't hardly do anything once he gets home! All I ask him to do is mow the lawn, and it took him getting a warning from the city until he finally mowed it! We don't even own an acre of land! Your wife sounds very lucky.

Answer 11

My husband mows the lawn and takes out the trash all of the other things on your list are my job in addition to my full time job outside of the house and I usually take my car in to have oil changes and repairs. I don't know of many men that do the things you describe but it wouldn't bother me if my husband wanted to do all of those things I would actually be thrilled!