I Know That My Husband Has Cheated On Me His Ex-Girlfriend But He Will Not Admit It what should I do?

Question

Last Year My Husband And I Conceieved A Little Girl That Was A Surprise. He Thinks That I Purposelly Got Pregnant , Well We WorkedThat Out And Now We Live Together But For The First Nine Months After My Daughter WasBorn weLivedApart. When My daughter Was 2 Months Old He Started To See His Ex- Girlfriend I Only Know Because She Was Leaving Love Songs On His Voicemail, So I Confronted Him About It And Still to This Day He Denies It Ever HAppened. I JustWant Him To Be Homnest < I HAve Put It Behind Me But I Just Want Him To, Admit it What Should I Do

Answer 1

XXXXXXXXXYou say you've put this behind you but I wonder if you're just trying to convence yourself that you have. As for me, I don't think a woman could ever but the fact that she thinks her husband is cheater on the back burner. This is a very serious matter and one that puts a bridge in the relationship. Trust, I think is a very important factor in a marriage and when that is lost, a lot more is lost slowly but surely. Like interest in love making, being romantic, and strengthening the marriage is the toughest task. We have to believe it with our hearts not just our heads for the marriage to go on without accusations and dishonesty. You have neither in your marriage. So the bridge widens instead of shortens. It's a tough situation is be in especially with someone you love and who says loves you. Talk to him again. tell him your fears and hopefully he'll be honest, because the marriage won't continue to work otherwise. Good luck hun. XXXXXXXXXXX

Answer 2

Go with whatever your gut tells you if you think he cheated well he probably did,he'll never admit to it unless he wants to leave you or hurt your feelings, My advice is if you think you can live with a cheating husband then you are doing a fine job right now but since your are on here and asking for advice I am taking it that you aren't sure well honey no-one can make that decision for you ..I was married for 10 yrs and just got a divorce last year so I know how hard it is to keep a cheating husband around but if you love him and you honestly feel like he loves you then there is only one thing standing in your way of happiness and that is TRUST...Only you can decide your life and how it turns out.....GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

I'm wondering if he were to say....what happened, would it change for you? would you want to leave? would you stay no matter what he said?

think about that and make up your mind based on that.

my ex cheated on my while we lived together, supposedly a one time thing, I confronted the person he cheated on me with. she actually thought she may be pregnant, turned out she wasn't. anyway needless to say, I married him and we were together for 6 years, but that's over now.

I think that I wish I would have realized that even the fact of him doing what he did, created somewhat of a wedge between us. things were never really what they would've been because he chose to show me that disrespect. It is hard to go back from that. maybe it can be done, but it is damn hard. things were never really the same after that, no matter how hard he tries if he did something he wishes he wouldn't have, there just is no taking it back.

Answer 4

You must be of German descent because you capitalize every single noun in your sentences. :p

Seriously now, how strong is this evidence of yours? Love songs left on his voicemail? Isn't it his voicemail or does it belong to you both? I mean, how do you get access to something that's supposed to be his, for his personal use?

I find it hilarious that your husband thinks you got pregnant on purpose. Hello? It takes two to tango. Needless to say, you got pregnant because of him. If he didn't want a child, he and you should have used protection (and not just a condom). So, no matter who blinked first, you two are responsible for that conception. I don't see the strength of his argument at all.

Sounds like your husband (and maybe yourself) are very, very, very young and inexperienced. You haven't put "it" behind you because it still bothers you. You two, please seek professional help (marriage counseling, I mean).

Answer 5

Obviously you have not put it behind you. And you don't really want him to be honest with you. What you want is a reason to continue the drama. What you need is to make a decision. Are you worthy of being loved and respected? If you truly think you are, then you will do one of two things. Either take your husband to marriage counseling to try and save your marriage or you will leave him and find someone who will honor you. If you think you are worthy of this honor, what you won't do is make it okay for your husband to treat you so disrespectfully.

Answer 6

Why does he have to admit it in order for you to know it's true? That shouldn't be the case...You already believe in your heart he cheated and that he's lying about it and as you can see, he's not going to admit it. You took him back so move on from that. That was your decision. You can't make him own up to it. You haven't put it behind you if you still are trying to get him to admit to it. He doesn't have to tell you that he cheated in order for it to have actually happened so stop waiting for him to tell you he did because he's not going to. You are wasting your time.

Answer 7

You are beating yourself up and he's letting you do it. He's not going to admit to anything, honey. You're going to have to make up your mind to let it go and start fresh; or brow beat him till he does it again. Then there is the option of leaving the cheater....he'll use any excuse to cheat once he got away with it. I'd tell him I'll not say another word about it; but if I catch him again, I'm gone and so is the kid.

Answer 8

Go on the Jerry Springer Show, you sound like the trailer park trash he has on everyday. THe only reason I watch Jerry to to sit back and relax in my comfortably normal lifestyle, while the rest of you trailer park people entertain the rest of teh world.

Answer 9

your convinced that he did weather he did or not. if you just want to create problems in your relationship just continue to badger him eventually he will get fed up with you and leave and find himself someone new.
and at that point he will say he did even ifs it not true and I'm sure he will add to some extra fire like" she was much better then you"
if you have put it behind you then why are you still asking and prodding.

Answer 10

you will never get him to admit it because he doesn't have to. if you have put it behind you then why do you need him to admit it? you know and he knows that you do but he doesn't care. he cheated on you and it sounds like he has been doing it more than once so you either need to leave him or you need to accept that he will never admit it. either is difficult especially with a child but i don't see their being any other option. good luck.