we have full custody of their 2 children ages 17 & 14. she bought the house across from us hoping the court would give her custody: that didn't happen. BUT THE WOMAN IS NUTS. she comes into my house WITHOUT KNOCKING and walks around calling for the kids. my husband told her that's not acceptable, so the second time she did it, he called the cops. the cops told her to stay 500 feet from our house or we could press stalking charges. THEN 2 months later, she and her new husband bought the house across from us. the kids have been raised by me (and their father) for 5 years. I REFUSE to leave my dream house... ANY SUGGESTIONS for keeping my sanity? please don't tell me to hope that she moves, she can't afford to i know what they paid they are TAPPED OUT.
2006-08-10 14:48:36 · 14 answers · asked by JayneDoe 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hope that they cannot afford the payments and have to move. In the meantime, ignore the situation..if you let her get to you, she is winning, isn't she? In fact, I think I might thank her for the prize of a life time...that should cool her heels. Good luck
2006-08-10 14:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggestion: stay put. The kids will be old enough in a few years to make their own decisions about custody. Change the locks. Call the cops if they overstep their boundaries and smile and wave when you see her. You're playing right into her hands. SHE WANTS TO UPSET YOU! She's winning so far. Just go about your business like she's not there until she steps over the line...then let all hell break loose on her. Be amiable but firm about the kids seeing their mother and basically wait her out. She won't be there long when she finds out her game isn't working any longer. She likes to keep you up and stir up the kids and she's doing a good job of it.
2006-08-10 14:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go on. She is trying to get under your skin and if you show her that she is then she won't stop. It is sad to know that you have to live like this but under the circumstances you have no choice. But keep up with the calls to the police. Now if you have a restraining order against her and she isn't supposed to be closer then 500 feet how can she get away with living so close. You should check into this. Keep me informed.
2006-08-10 14:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a bind.....Your kids are watching what you do. She has issues, and unfinished business with your hubby. His business with her will never actually be finished.
Best bet is to take the high road and not act spitefully. Your kids are watching, so model a good example for them and don't let her behavior cause you to act irrationally.
You shouldn't have to move, but you might have to face it. It can't be your "dream house" if you have his ex micromanaging from accross the street. That wouldn't be my dream.....
If she can't respect your space and privacy, then move.
Don't go doing anything stupid, like calling homeland security to report suspiscious terrorist-related activity or anything....
2006-08-10 15:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does she have a key to your house? She can live where she wants but your husband needs to set some boundaries. Other than that there really isn't much you can do.
In another 3 years both kids will be away at college....keep thinking about that.
2006-08-10 15:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no superb suited on your storage and maximum probable has an legal duty to pass someplace which will make him pass. At this factor, he can do little to take the residing house "away", or to reason any delays as escrow will close in a remember of hours and as a result each and every of the papers and signed. i could tell him no, wait in case you experience extra gentle..or tell him he can lease the storage yet charge him a daft quantity of $$...
2016-10-01 22:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can live across the street, but she can't come in your house like that. That's BS.
Get an attorney. And what the heck is wrong with her new husband? He must be whipped. Geez.
2006-08-10 15:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap! What a nightmare. There's really nothing you can do though. In a few years the kids will be out on their own, then you will be able to have your sanity.
2006-08-10 15:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be pressing those charges and I'd come up with 99 different reasons to call the city till they fine her and make her move..
2006-08-10 15:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by waiting4myredemption 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your doors locked. I assume she has visitation rights so I would see about getting them supervised. She sounds like a wacko.
2006-08-10 15:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by renee1724 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋