Should I Be Mad?

Question

My best friend of 16 years, who has lived next door to me all my life, recently moved 3 hours away to college. When she first left in June, she came to visit almost every weekend and she's now back for about 2 weeks before fall semester starts. She's been home for about a week and has totally ignored me. Her boyfriend injuried his pinky finger at work and has been over his house all week "taking care of him". I understand she wants to spend time with him since they're apart until he also leaves to move to the same college as her, but I figured they'd hang for a few days then she'd plan a day with me. I haven't had one phone call or anything from her. I saw her the first 10 minutes she was here and haven't seen her since. I feel like she could care less if she sees me before she goes back to school. Should I be mad at the fact that she's basically ignoring me while she's home?

Answer 1

Yes

Answer 2

Yes, I would be hurt. However.. if you want to spend time with this friend.. go that extra mile and go to her house and talk to her about how she is doing etc. People do change when they go to college. I am a mother of 2 children who went away to college and even though they do come back home, they are not the same person as they were when they left. If you and she are close friends.. just open up to her and tell her how you feel and that you want to share some time together while she is home. Good luck.

Answer 3

No I don't believe that you should be mad. This sounds as if it is the first time this has happened. Is she overwhelmed with school? Is leaving her b/f back at home stressing her out? Without knowing all the facts, and it really sounds like you don't have them, don't jump to conclusions and get mad. Just write her a letter, after she leaves, then mail it to her asking next time she comes up could she spend some time with you. You can word it differently but you get the point. Best of luck.

Answer 4

Maybe she is just overwhelmed with school and wants some space..or maybe she thought you made a new best friend while she was gone..If you want to see her you should make the phone call, not her. She might have been waiting for you, and thought you were ignoring her?

I would make the first move and call her or pop over to her house to say hi!

Answer 5

No i don't think you should be mad, although I do understand why you feel this way. Look at it from her perspective, she has a b/f. You can understand that she will almost certainly spend more time with him especially if he hurt imself. Also, do you know her schedule? Maybe she just does not have time to see you during the times she is not with him?

Answer 6

Well, i don't know. In one say, I think you should be mad, but then on the flip side I don't. Maybe talk to her over the phone saying you wanted to see her, you missed her, blah blah. Maybe she's been busy. But she should've called you, visit you. So, yea I would be mad. But, talk to her. Maybe she has a good explanation...maybe. Hope I helped! Good Luck

Answer 7

After 16 years of friendship you should be able to just confront her with that question. It does seem a bit selfish on her part and she should be a bit more conciderate to you. Have you gone to visit her. Do you call her.............phone does ring both ways.....just making sure

Answer 8

no you shouldnt be mad, neither of you have made a conscious effort to get in touch. Call her and tell her you want to get together before she leaves. Don't let it get to you anymore.

Answer 9

No. Give her space. It's difficult juggling so many issues at once, and we hope that the people who love us will be patient until we get it all together.

Answer 10

Do you have a boy friend?
Because you sound like you are jealous of hers.
They are spending time together.
She will call when she needs you.