my husband thinks being on the internet on myspace is wrong, but I am only on there to find new and old friends. I lied about being on there and he found out I was on there, and he is really mad! I didn't tell him because I knew he would be totally upset, but I am only on there to find old and new friends, but he thinks I am on there to find other guys. Am I wrong, or is he wrong... I mean I am totally innocent, I mean I have a picture of him on there with my two girls, the last thing I want to do is find a man.
2006-08-10 14:40:51 · 45 answers · asked by tgallenstein01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you were wrong to lie to him about it, but I DO think that he's wrong about you being on myspace. I started on there as a married woman and was NOT looking for a guy. I have since left and divorced my ex (NOT due to myspace or anyone on there, just the horrible relatisnip I was in). I have a married friend who is on there and she spends a lot of time on there.
I think that as long as the two of you spend time together and work on the relationship more than you are on myspace, it should be fine. It sounds as if he is insecure. Does he think that every time you leave the house you are looking for guys? He sounds like the type of guy that would think that and would try to control you because of it. But, that's just my opinion.
Let him know that there are a LOT of married women on there. I acutally have several married women friends on there. It's not just for finding dates or for kids; it's also for people to make friends and find old friends. Let him know this. If this doesn't help him, then maybe he needs to talk with others who are on there to find out what it's all about.
2006-08-10 15:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You knew how he felt about that. Still you decided to go for it. A married woman can be at myspace, she can even post ads in personal sites all over the net. But since you are a married person, decisions like this must be reached by both parties. Same rule applies to married men. You are no longer a single individual, you are part of a couple and as such, everything must be decided among the two of you, together.
2006-08-10 14:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a married woman on my space with the same interest, to find friends; so in all being out there isn't wrong. But even though you knew he would get upset you should have told him he would have been able to get over it easier. Finding out another way always make you look guilty. No matter if your not then, he will always be suspicous. If need be ask him to compromise? Tell him if he will allow you to be on my space you will change your contact info and start over to show its purely innocent. That allows him to feel in control more and he thinks it was his idea, he can even help you come up with a different name.
How did he find out? If he is on my space and won't let you then you have another issue of trust to talk about!
2006-08-10 14:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by sxyg0dess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever. If you have friends that you stay in touch with get their e-mails. Your exposing your marriage to outside influences from all over the country. Thousands of affairs have started from friendly e-mails and then correspondence than simple flirting, etc....
You act like an angel but your not. Your husband is right and I wouldn't trust you either. Get off my space. You can keep in touch with friends personally.
Also I think it's sick that we've become such an open society. We're so naive. Putting your kids pix on the internet for all to see; good and bad people is irresponsible. Be a good parent and wife, stop the drama, and dump the my space. Or, you can have a myspace together so people know what's up. That would make him feel better and included.
2006-08-10 14:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only thing you did wrong was lie to him. He sounds like he has some real issues with possessiveness, and that can be really dangerous. Does he kow that myspace is not a dating site? If he thinks that it's just a dating site, I can see where he might get upset. But you have a right to have friends, and to meet them however you like. Be understanding, be honest, but don't just give in to whatever he wants.
2006-08-10 15:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nited1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person who said he probably doesnt want you to find his profile!! Otherwise why would he be so upset? Unless you have had an affair on him in the past and he is insecure. I am a married woman and my hubby and I both have Myspace accounts, as matter of fact, we keep intouch that way sometimes, just to leave each other lovey notes and comments.. Its a great way to find and keep in touch with family and old friends........ Search Myspace for his name and see whats on his profile if he has one, this may be deeper than just an insecurity or possesiveness!! If it were me I would totally check it out! good luck.......
2006-08-10 15:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That may be true but myspace can get you into a world of trouble. I recently had some problems after my husband got a myspace account. In order to reassure your husband it may be wise to delete your account. Why did you lie about being on there? He may believe that you have something to hide because you lied. Be open and honest about what you are doing on there if you decide not to close it. And maybe you can include him when you're on there. Myspace is so addictive that you've got to be careful or before you know it you may get caught up in something you or your husband can't handle.
2006-08-10 14:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by toosexy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, my husband hates my myspace account, even though his pic is all over it. I love it though because I found all my friends from high school and get to show off my pictures to them. Men can sometimes be so insecure!!! Never mind that, u are not doing anything wrong.
2006-08-10 14:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by y_welton 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is insecure. How much time do you spend on the computer? Make sure you spend lots of time together and nuture your relationship then he won't stress when you need alone time. Don't get mad with him, discuss it. Why you looking for friends on the net, is it an emotional intimacy issue, rather than spend time with friends in person? Do you have intimacy issues both physical and emotional in your marriage? Is your husband feeling neglected? Work it out together, talk to each other.
2006-08-10 14:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's got some trust issues. But maybe you could take the time to actually show him your Myspace and maybe point out the people on your friends list and let him know how you actually know these people. It might ease his mind a little bit.
2006-08-10 14:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Sassy Pants 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋