I rent a small place from this old couple and as much as they look out for me, the old man is constantly knocking on my door telling me to close my windows, asking what I am doing for the day, if I cleaned the apartment or did the dishes......blah blah blah. They are form Sicily and I know they have their own ways but I feel like I am constantly scrunitized. What the heck should I do?
2006-08-10 14:21:02 · 24 answers · asked by ? 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Renting & Real Estate
They also cook me homecooked meals on the weekends no matter how much I resist.
2006-08-10 14:25:47 · update #1
Maybe they are lonely, and it's sort of nice to have someone looking out for you. I don't think there is any way to ask them to "back off" without seeming really rude and bitchy. I think you are a sweet girl for putting up with it.
2006-08-10 14:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend 3 things:
1. talk to them: I don't know how open they might be, but I would suggest first to explain to them how you feel when they check on you all the time. Be calm when you go and talk to them, don't approach them when you are upset.
2. cut down on the friendliness. Be cordial, but maybe not too much socializing, or you going over to see them (I don't know if you do that). Keep it a business relationship.
3. don't feel forced to open the door. It might be difficult at the beginning, but eventually they will realize that just because they knock, they will not always get an answer.
If all that does not work, you might need to think of finding another place. Good luck!
2006-08-10 21:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by carlos 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CONFRONT him.... let him know that you feel like your gettin' nagged like you were living in your parents place. Umm... You can actually go online and print a LANDLORD priveledges thingy and highlight your main points and sit down and talk to your landlord about what's bothering you, showing him he may not be allowed to do this and as your RIGHT as the tenant that pays you can do what you want, well ALMOST. Lol. I know i lived directly above my landlord and as a 21yrs old I'm considered "NOISY" cuz I stay up past 8pm lol... so we tried to keep it down. We'd always run into our landlord when climbing our stairs and she was quite nosey... we just said hi , smiled, and kept on walking like she wasn't talking to us. Acted like we were in a hurry to get somewhere. Sounds mean yes... but it works. And she eventually got the hint and let us have our space. She'd check on us once a week, but it was to make sure our electricity and stuff like that were fine. Cuz it was an old building... but yeah CONFRONT your landlord. Good Luck!
2006-08-10 21:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by sweetsuezq4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept it or move out. They are treating you as family. Try to do things for them/with them at your own time so they aren't bothering you so much, like take coffee and donuts over in the morning, or ask them if they want to go shopping with you when you have to go anyway.... Trust me these people don't mean to "annoy" you or spy on you, they just treat you like you are one of them, that means they like you! Think of them as "Grandpa and Grandma Landlord" and you'll find out they are probably very kind and loving - not nosy.
2006-08-10 21:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UGH! You're in a tough situation! Let's see. I think you should seriously consider moving or just putting up with it. If you tell them to back off, they're going to be hurt and things will be uncomfortable for you from now on. If you say nothing and nothing changes, YOU'RE going to be uncomfortable from now on. I'm pretty sure this isn't what you want to do, but I just don't see how else to remedy this without ruining civil relationships.
2006-08-10 21:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by Answers to Nurse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell Mr Roper that if he does leave you and Janet and Chrissy alone that you'll buy Mrs. Roper 2 tickets to the opera tonite. He'll back down for sure 'cause he hates the opera and he doesn't want to make whoopie with her afterwards.
2006-08-10 21:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are both adorable and annoying as hell, and you feel guilty about saying anything, right? lol
Try not always answering your door and if they say anything to you later, admit that you were home but needed some quiet or private time, or that you weren't in the mood for company.
Extracate yourself little by little.
2006-08-10 22:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to approach them first, catch them outside and ask how their day is tell them you just got done cleaning and doing the dishes try to beat them to it then they wont feel they need to ask those particular questions. but they will try to make small talk just go with it. if it really bothers you maybe you should move.
god forbid you bring someone home one night that will really stir things up... lol:)
2006-08-10 21:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a thing called Renter's rights... If they get out of hand with things like making sure your house is cleand ect... Thats where the rights come in handy and you can copy it for free I think. @rentersrights.gov maybe.
2006-08-10 21:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to know them they sound like a great pair of substitute grand parents they are probably missing thier kids and grandkids
the benefits out weigh the nosiness
2006-08-10 21:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋