All I can say is, I feel belittled so much for everything that I can't sleep and can't cope with life in general and can barely do my job. But to discuss this with someone over the person's head (in a nice, non-blaming way) can mean the person will hate me more once he/she finds out that he/she has been "reported" (though I don't mean it like that). However, keeping silent means more living in fear and depression.
So...stay silent and don't make problems, or nicely tell someone over his/her head and hope for the best? Gulp. I could be blamed more and not believed or person could make up a story to counter mine. I could really be let go for this or bashed more.
2006-08-10 14:10:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
the first step is almost always to discuss it with the person giving you the problem. They may have no idea they are causing the problem and be willing to do something about it.
If this is impossible or dosent work then going to your personnel dept is usually the best next step.Most companies of any size today have a personnel policy to handle such situations.
How important is the job, since the last step is to look for another one.
I forgot to mention. Have you carefully assessed your own viewpoint? could you have it wrong? Is there something you can do about it yourself?
2006-08-10 14:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Fred R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start a journal and record dates/times and all relevant information, you need to stand up for yourself. Talk directly to the person first, make sure you put all details in your journal of that. If it doesn't work, then go over his/her head. Be matter of fact and non blaming, tell them that you feel you are being harassed and that it's a toxic work environment for you. Make sure you add all the details in your journal about that too. If complaints are made against you, show them COPIES of your journal, not the real thing. Save the real thing for an attorney because you might have a lawsuit on your hands. Do what you can after work to de-stress, your quality of life is obviously being effected. Also, start taking steps to find other, less hostile work.
2006-08-10 21:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw that!!!!!You need to be a take charge kind of person.Stop being so nice, People will never respect you , until you respect yourself.Stand up for yourself,and say something in private to your supervisor.Or you can try saying something to the person that's causing you heart ache first. Life is too short to be stepped on like a rug! And if your supervisor doesn't believe you,....find another job, where people will treat you like a human should be treated.Good luck
2006-08-10 21:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by ronchoward 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your employer have an employee assistance program (someone that you can talk with for free)?
Contact human resources and ask about employee assistance.
If that is an option, they will give you viable solutions.
Most companies will not tolerate abuse.
No job is worth not sleeping and not coping in everyday life. You need your sleep. ...and, living in fear and depression! not worth any amount of $$$.
I would go to the person over her/his head, but I would also line up another job.
It just isn't worth it. He/she will never forget that you did that.
....and, start documenting.
GL. My boss sounds similar....don't LET your job bring you down that much. You should never go into a job that you are miserable in.
2006-08-10 21:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you go to the person first and discuss this problem. If that doesn't work, then you should go to the one that is higher up. You can't live the way you are doing. You have to do something. Being quiet will not solve the problem. I wish you luck.
2006-08-10 21:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to break out of that situation. You can't live like that.
You SHOULD have been documenting EVERYTHING said and done to you. I hope you have.
Stand up, do the right thing and report the rat and let the chips fall where they may. Imply, without saying it that you're facing a hostile work environment and will sue -don't say it though! That usually scares them.
Worse comes to worst and you get a new job.
BTW, we usually get into these situations when we don't stand up for ourselves when we should. Sound familiar?
Good luck.
2006-08-10 21:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by Salami and Orange Juice 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know where you are. I reported, and they went right to the person and said..."Oh, Laurie said..." But, you can't go on living in misery! It makes for such a horrible work day! Isn't there someone? you could talk to...(a boss) that will not go to the person and tell them you reported them? I wish you were clear on what happened. poste again, I'll watch! Good luck!
2006-08-10 21:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried discussing your feelings with this person who is intimidating you? For example, keep your statements in the "I", such as "when you", "I feel", "is this just me, or is there more to it? As a general rule of social ethics, one should never go over the head or behind the back of someone who is giving them grief. Good Luck.
2006-08-10 21:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by Otter's Waters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can answer this for you. You need to do what you feel is right. So, get a magic eight ball and ask it the question. Just kidding. Good luck honey. LOL.
2006-08-10 21:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sugar_Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't want to stay in that kind of work environment. If it were me, I would talk to a supervisor of some sorts, and in my spare time update my resume.
Obviously, this is something you need to decide for yourself.
2006-08-10 21:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by DALOmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋