when i was born i lived w/ my mother and grandparents and to make a long story short...my mother and i moved out when i was 14 and my grandpa and i use to be real close.... the main point...my mother met her new b/friend and they got together when i was 17 w/ a baby...well my mother and i use to be like sisters..but when we lost the mobile home because of her stupid b/f i was kicked out and i lived from friend to friend w/ a 1 yr old son...finally moved to grandparents, but my mother doesnt want anything to do w/ me, she calls my sons father her son and im not her daughter anymore and i feel alone and it really gets to me..my grandpa on the other hand puts me down..so im very insecure about myself...he has it in my mind when i do something its not good enough and now its worse i do something over and over and i still feel like im not good enough...he even says im to stupid for college... he also came into my own house infront of my husband putting me down... what do i do?
2006-08-10 14:07:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he has been treating me this way since i was 14 and im now 23 how can i get secure about myself
2006-08-10 14:09:05 · update #1
i dont live w/ my grandpa i live in my own house w/ my hubby
2006-08-10 14:26:20 · update #2
im already moved out and married...i have a husband, just wandering why he treats me so badly
2006-08-10 14:32:33 · update #3
Your problem isn't your grandfather, it's you basing your life on what others think. You are the only person on this planet who can make you happy. When relatives or friends tend to keep us in a place in our lives that makes us feel worthless, we tend to start just resigning ourselves to their way of thinking. Wake up sister... you are still very young and have a long life ahead of you, and the path you are on is going to make that life a miserable one. Personally I would sever contact with my grandfather if he could not treat me with the respect that I deserved. We teach people how to treat us by how we accept the way they treat us. You have to just put your foot down and start demanding the respect that you deserve, that is the answer to your question. It won't be easy and it won't happen over night, but if you make this decision and stick with it I promise that your life will improve immensely. Peace.
2006-08-10 14:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by julianna76301 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can! You're an adult with your own family now and are more than capable of living your own life. You don't need validation from anyone (including your family) to feel good. Get out there and do something to better yourself...accomplish a few things and your self esteem will follow. Your self worth is in your hands, not in someone elses so stop looking for validation where it is not warranted. That kind of thing only comes from within.
2006-08-10 14:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them both, your mother and grandfather, that they are no better. statistically speaking, only 5% or below of people over 50 can work a computer to the level of a 6-7 yr old. so you are most certainly good enough for college.
2006-08-10 14:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by J S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job and go to college or get a certificate of some sort or something that can help you with your career.
dont move out yet because you still need them taking care of your son while your out.
when the time comes that you think you can handle it on your own, move out and prove them wrong.
2006-08-10 14:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by ssr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and move out! If you are married already; why are you staying with him. Go and enjoy life with your husband.
2006-08-10 14:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat r u saying that u r lonley and wat
2006-08-10 14:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋