Why are men so easily tempted? What are the qualities of those who aren't? I have known men who are extremely good fathers and friends but suck at relationships! Can you have a marriage that is pure from beginning to death? What were the characteristics of that marriage? I am serious people. I have been married for 11 years and I have questions!
2006-08-10 13:54:36 · 10 answers · asked by kswift25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With regards to your first question, when you say tempted I assume you mean cheating. Why, men and women both cheat is a question not too easily answered. In my experiance I have come to find out that most who stray have watched a parent do the same, and our now under the belief that it is acceptable behavior. As for the qualities of those individuals who dont, I would say relationships are like a slot machine. Sometimes you hit the jackpot; sometimes you lose it all. There really is no way to pickout the good from the bad. 9 out of 10 times I would say the goodone is the one you would least excpect. You never judge a book by it's cover. As far as a marriage that is pure from beginning to death, I would most definately say you can have that. However, you have to look at it realisticly. No marriage is ever going to be perfect. I would say that a marriage with no bumps will end in a bad way. It's when a husband and a wife make it over these bumps in the road that they become closer. It's facing challenges, and coming out of them still standing that makes a relationship strong enough to last. I hope I have been some help to you.
2006-08-10 14:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by bmank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In answer to your first question...I think that men are easily tempted because they are much more external than we are. I also think that men were taught as boys to not show their feelings..then when a problem arises in a relationship, they don't know what to do with those feelings, so they go and try to fix it by sleeping with someone else.
In answer to your question about what are the qualities of men who arent' easily tempted..well, I can only go by my husband who I believe is a very faithful person. He has the following qualities...respectful to my needs in life..all aspects,..even in the bedroom,...good to our children...hard worker..great sense of humor...is fine with going to therapy when there is rough patches..( we have gone for a brief time..twice in our marriage)...and trusts me and gives me my freedom.. Those who don't trust are the ones you really need to be careful of.
I have been married for 14 years and I do believe that we will be together forever...and no..I don't think I will have to worry about other women. Just my two cents! Hope this helps.
2006-08-10 16:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sure, just ask us to be perfect. Be a perfect husband father lover, friend, partner.
Guess what, we are going to slip up and make mistakes from time to time. Doesn't effect how much we love and adore you. Everyone just makes mistakes. A slip, is a mistake, a pattern, needs deeper help. How bout ya just ease off the poor guy and tell him how much you appreciate him.
Its not exactly easy for a guy to put away the thoughts of himself and be a husband, instead of just Joe or Bob. or be a Father right after walking through the front door.
2006-08-10 14:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my Gma and Gpa were married 54 yrs. He died last Oct. I'm 34 and I never saw him disrespect anyone not even my Gma. They had a loving relationship. I really think he cared about her and about other people. People just don't care about others today. I think that there are so many distractions that some men and women don't care. They live just for the moment just for what they can gain. No matter who it hurts.
2006-08-10 14:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by iamiandme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have questions too and I am also married. I know in my case I settled I was too scared to put myself out there with the one I really loved so I settled for the one that really loved me that way i wouldnt get hurt, but now I'm regretting it. So I guess the first step would be to ask yourself why did I marry? Was it really for love? A lot of how a man acts in his adult life has to do with how he was raised always keeps that in context.
2006-08-10 14:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive never known a great MAN
2006-08-10 14:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am deeply in love that is all that matters to me right now. Take one day at a time. Ask your husband you may be surprised by your answers you get from him.
2006-08-10 14:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by sicilygal2581 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will always be tempted. If he refuses the tempation, then you can trust him.
2006-08-10 13:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is work if you want to keep it going.not all men are tempted.and congrats on 11yrs married you don't hear that to often.
2006-08-10 14:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by travellinghotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking far too much! Be happy with what you got.
2006-08-10 14:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋