So I find porn allover the computer and I say okay.... I think wow, maybe he will use what he is watching in bed! Has not happened! I am 28 yrs, 5'6 125lbs and pretty hot. He loves to look a pussy but not mine. What the hell? I am so sick of it! I am too young to just settle for a boring sex life and I am not going to beg! Look at the porn you want but use what you watch in bed with me! I am overly frustrated with the situation and have brought this to my husbands attention several times. He says he is still crazy for me? I do not see that! Any suggestions?
2006-08-10 13:44:03 · 27 answers · asked by louwho 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think its the best way to take him to the martial counseling FIRST and face up on this issue with him. If he doesn't give you what you need to hear from him, Just leave him and find some else who will appreciate who you are and what you are made of and love you no matter how you look or your appearance. It is not a worth to stay with him if he won't change. I think it's degrading to look at the porn!
2006-08-10 14:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Julie G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boring Sex Porn
2016-10-16 07:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 20:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Wally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband and I have been together for over a little 3 years. However past 6 months or so our sex life has gone down hill as well. He said he was bored too. So I did take up belly dancing which is so much fun and it with these lessons I have learned to just move certain parts of my body and what not. Well that didn't work he just kept on getting more mad at me with every little thing and hit me. I even went as far as getting a school girl outfit and did the whole role playing thing and still nothing. I have used hand cuffs and stuff but he still doesn't like to to touch me or anything. If you figure out what turns a man on lol let me know good luck.
2016-03-16 23:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried just being compassionate and understanding? Perhaps he is feeling like he needs something more but he doesn't know what. If you bathe in a bubble bath and ask him to wash your back.... Have candles lit and maybe a glass of wine. Ask him if he'd like to join you. Give him that look he got a long time ago. Most of the time the partner feels something is wrong with them if there is no response or they are mad at you for something. But if he tells you that he thinks you are still hot, then boil his water!!! Get him so turned on that he can't wait any longer. Tickle him, tease him, seduce him. Do the things he is seeing in the porn. Maybe he needs something new and different to do. Or maybe he just likes looking. Show it to him!! But don't get angry or accuse or issue an ultimatum. Just lure him to where you want to go. Tell him you love him. Then toast to the bubble bath!
One other thing.... if your guy is approaching 30, he could be having trouble with his view of the future (finances, getting older, feeling depressed, etc.). Get back to the romance. Go on a date and ask him to give you a kiss goodnight before you go into your place. Or better yet, spend the night at a motel. Go parking in the car and get caught kissing in public (or petting....) Try to get him back to where you were when you met. That should help, too. Once you've got his attention, then you can be creative and have some fun. Love him!!!
2006-08-10 14:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by lindy-s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you actually told your husband you'd like watch it with him or do some of things he sees? Cause if you've told him what you just told us, he might have gotten the impression that you think him watching the porn is somewho wrong or that you want him to give it up and do you instead. IOW, maybe make it a bit more clear? I do agree with poster in acting with more compassion, stop getting angry with him about it (which may make him feel attacked) and come at it from a sexy perspective. "Wow, baby, that looks so hot. Can we try that?" instead of, "How come you look at her all day but you won't do that to me?" IOW, instead of thinking, "Wow, amybe he will use what he's watching in bed"...actually tell HIM that.
But why he goes to the porn when your sex life is boring... could be he's bored too but doesn't know what to do, but he watches the porn to ease his frustrations. Take matters into your hands, honey, and lead him along. Show him what you want.
2006-08-10 14:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn....when viewed with you partner, usually increases the sexual desire between the two of you....or so it should because porn is a visual FANTASY! If he thinks it goes beyond that, there's a problem. Have you asked him the really hard questions yet? What do you get out of watching porn...stimulation? Ideas to live out fantasies with YOU? etc...
I think a male with a good sexual appetite has more than he can handle in you. Try asking him if there are any sexual fantasies he's seen while watching porn that he would like to try out with you...
2006-08-10 14:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by Aztek G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't been allready, you need to be _very_ specific about what things you want him to do.
Watch porn with him, don't just find out after what he looked at. Surf together, then outright tell him things you'd like to try. Not later, right then. With it still going on the screen. I have a really hard time imagining him saying no at that point.
2006-08-11 05:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you I am going through a sex rut with my hubby of 7 years. He likes porn and was addicted to it for along time. I have not let him have access to the net for a while and he has not asked. Our sex life is exactly the same! I personally think men are too spoiled when their woman has to deal with the hurt and adverse reaction on her sex life. I think us women should put our foot down! We want sex too and they need to realize that it's for our pleasure--not just theirs! I am 10 years younger than my husband and in great shape for a having a baby 6 years a go. I turn heads everywhere, but when I'm with him I feel worthless and ugly. I could be the woman that women slap their husband over, but he takes that for granted because since he married me I don't need compliments or great sex! I feel for you and wish you luck!
2006-08-10 14:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens to a lot of couples. I know someone who divorced over it. The porn is satisfying him, so he may lack desire for actual sex with his wife. Or he may feel inadequate sexually because he's now comparing himself with the porn stars and feels he can't do it as well as they do.
Porn can be an addiction. Check out sexual addiction on www.newlife.com for more information on it. If he wants to get over it, he'll need professional help.
Best,
G
2006-08-10 14:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋