how do gays become gay?

Question

i like how "you" (gays) want to be equal to everyone.. which is what i think to.. but when answering this questions you seperate yourselfs by saying "we" just a little note to think on

Answer 1

they choose to be, genetic is flipping lie. Your fly is unzipped you might want to check that before you post a quesiton

Answer 2

Two things in particular I'm going to point to. A number of major studies have been done of animals. All the species studied had homosexual behavior -- and all the species that had pair bonds at all had homosexual pair bonding TO THE EXCLUSION OF MATING WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX IN HEAT. Explain how that is even possible as a choice for animals? (the best book in this particular field is probably Dr. Bruce Bagemihl's book "Biological Exuberance" from St. Martin's Press -- from its bibliography you can find many others, and you can easily find other studies that look at the same phenomena.)

2nd -- the Fruit-fly study. The results for fruit-flies can't be denied (link below). People are trying to say that just because it applies to fruit-flies it doesn't have to to people. Alright, while I accept that the genetic mechanism is much more complex among humans -- why on earth would something like homosexuality be completely genetic in simple species and not genetic at all in the most complex species? It makes no sense, particularly given that no gay person I know EVER remembers being attracted to a female. Bisexuals are attracted to both. Gays are only attracted to same sex. So -- how is that a choice? Isn't it just the opposite of what straight people feel? An inborn automatic response. Period.

Standing against science, common sense, and logic -- you have a bronze age book that people keep telling each other is divine, but which says the earth has corners (Isaiah 11:12), sits on pillars (I Samuel 2:8), and is on top of the water (Psalms 24:1-2). The book says beetles have 4 legs not 6 (Leviticus 11: 21-23) and states that rabbits chew cuds (which they do NOT) (Deuteronomy 14:7). Given that choice, despite the emotional benefits that I'm sure some people gain from believing that the bronze age book is correct on this, just like it is on the corners -- I'll go with the logic, science and common sense.

Regards,

Reynolds Jones
Schenectady, NY
http://www.rebuff.org

PS Thank you Jason for providing a clear reason for me to include the final paragraph of that IN ADVANCE of my posting it -- I have so much pity for you fundamentalists. It isn't God's Word -- its a book of myths. Thank you.

Answer 3

A lot of people think its choice. But most people can't remember when they chose to be Straight or Queer. Therefor its something that developes unconciously through life experiences. The lack of a father role may play in for males. I'm bi and i don't have as close a relationship w/ my dad as i'd like. But i'm not sure if it really contributed to my attraction towards males. Most full blown gay men i know have hardly any connection with their father, nor ever had a father figure around. Their mother's were either distant, working, or never even there durring the developmental stage where we relate sex with gender.

To say it is something your born with is like calling it a disease, but it still comes off as a disease to some people if it is a choice. B/c then it becomes a mental disorder.

This question will never be answered by the way. You have to decide for yourself, and sorry to say, not many people are compotent enough to understand possibilies rather than believe the first thing someone hot tells them.

Answer 4

Wow! This question again! We are born homosexual just as some are born heterosexual. It's not a sickness. It's not a choice. It's not because of some childhood trauma. It's not because of the devil. It's a thing called genetics. Almost every true homosexual will tell you they were gay from birth. Just as you were NOT gay from birth. Science will prove all of this one day. Most studies point to it and as more are done and properly conducted and funded the truth will come out...it's a genetic thing.

Answer 5

Some people are born with the tendacies and others chose to be that way. Gays become gay(happy) because they love each other. Try it if you haven't already.

Answer 6

Why doesn't anyone ask how straight's get the way they are? We are born as we are and the only problem comes when we or society, our familes or religion or what ever make us try to be what we are not. Straights have problems around our sexuality but at least no one doubts the vaidity or reality of that sexuality.

Answer 7

OMG , Don't you people ever tire of the this same old tired question ? It is ask in a hundred different ways every day . Do a search and get the answer there .

Answer 8

I'll take the life I've been living over science any day of the week. I've been a lesbian all my life, struggled with it for quite some time. I've tried to be straight, tried not to think about being with other women, couldn't do it. I am who I am and all I can be is me.

Answer 9

They get recruited, and the gay who recruited them gets a toaster oven. (Anybody remember whre that is from?).

Seriously, is that a serious question? Gay people are born gay. How did you become straight? Or are you even straight?

Answer 10

Birth is the usual method. I was born gay.

Answer 11

What kind of question is that??? I'm appalled at society nowadays. I can tell you that I'm completely straight, but i have gay friends....how can you ask questions like that, they are people too...they see, touch, taste, and smell the same as heterosexuals....I don't what kind of ignorance brought on that question