he has been married for 5 months,I knew him 4 months ago,he told me "IF I had known you a month ago,our lives would be differents,he can't leave her,because she's gonna give him his legal residence,he wants to go to know my family,he told me he loves me,he respect me too,and I really love him.We have talk a lot, but we cannot find a solution. Please help me
2006-08-10 13:33:39 · 6 answers · asked by ema 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Somehow,you must be thankful that the married man you are in love with knows his bounds. But if he is to stick with her despite the fact that it is you he loves for the reason that his wife will give him his residence, don't you think that he is taking advantage of his wife? If you were his wife, I don't think you will like that idea.
For fairness' sake, if he really is willing to live with you, he should no longer wait for that "getting his residence" thing to be finished before he leaves her. That is a direct insult on his wife, a slap on her face which may be very offensive for her because she may think that she was married by that man just because of what she could give him.
Both of you should decide now whether to continue or not your relationship so that there would be not so many people who would get hurt along the way.
Search your heart and soul. Are you having restful sleeps that you are having an affair with a very much married man? Should he leave her, would you have peace of mind knowing that you were the cause of the separation? Will you be able to face the people around you even though they call you "a family-breaker"? Don't you ever think the possibility that the man you love can easily love another woman despite his commitments to the woman he lives with at the moment? You can never say it is impossible because it happened between you. (Don't get me wrong though. I don't say that he is like that, but it's just a possibility).
Having searched your heart and soul, you can make one of the hardest decisions in your life... whether to stick with that man until he leaves his wife for you, or separate ways with him and just leave everything to Destiny. If you are meant for each other, Destiny will work towards that way. If not, just believe in your heart and mind that the right man will come along at the right time, at the right place, and at the right situation. Let Destiny do his share concerning your heart. Whatever decision you make, you are responsible for it and I hope you will not regret it. Good luck.
2006-08-10 14:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very dangerous situation. It can't possibly be love if it's only been 4 months. And if you really don't want to hurt anyone, then you would forget about him and leave him alone.
How would you feel if the love of your life that you just married was talking to another girl on the side? Karma does go around, believe me. When I was 18 I slept with a married man, and when his wife found out, (oh, yes she did find out) she cursed me out over the phone for a good hour, then had her daughter call me and curse me out, saying, "How could you ruin our family? YOu are such a stupid little tramp..." It was the worst feeling in the world. And of course, when I got married, my husband slept with a little 15 year old girl. I was so upset, but what goes around, comes around. Believe me. All you are feeling is infatuation, not love.
And believe me, this guy is only telling you what he wants you to know. You would be surprised how much men lie about their spouse about how horrible they are, or why they stay with them, "even though I don't love her" that is such BS. LEAVE HIM ALONE.
2006-08-10 20:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't important enough to him to change his situation, then all he wants is to bang you, string you along and take advantage of your low-self-esteemed butt.
You're also a fool for getting involved with a married man. If he does it to someone, what makes you think he won't do it to you?
2006-08-10 20:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by Say it like it is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is married just stay away it is not worth it or do what you want but if he really respects you he'll let you go until he is divorced.
2006-08-10 20:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't trust this guy
he just wants to woo you and have an affair with you
DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM!
if you really love each other, let him get divorced and then you should think about other stuff!
2006-08-10 22:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a no win saturate,play with fire you will get burnt
2006-08-10 20:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋