We have been having a huge problem with getting her to do her homework, she is VERY dependant on others to help (do) her homework for/with her. She was raised by her mother that for 8 years, just gave her the answers, (didnt help her) or if she didnt want to do the work, didnt make her, and just let her do her own thing. She struggles with reading and just using common sense to answer her work problems. She gets mad at us when we make her use (or try to) her head to figure things out on her own. We have tried both positive and negative reinforcements to help with this and even being on meds has not made a difference, she is living with us full time for the school year, but to try and fix the problems from when she was raised by her mom during the crucial learning years is nearly impossible. We need honest answers, and help. How do you get your kids to apply themselves, and to just make an effort to do their work, so many times, it just seems to be laziness, need solutions!!!
2006-08-10 13:33:34 · 5 answers · asked by dnmhbk 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Homework Help
No homework = no TV, video games, phone calls, friends over or visiting others. And homework starts right after school. Snack & then homework. No excuses.
Make her study area appealing but with no distractions. Remove TV, stereo, IPod, phone from the study area.
As to making your daughter think, well you have to be the role model here. Play learning games as a family. Scrabble is good, so is chess. Lots of good games that encourage thinking. My son loved logic and puzzle books. Go to the library and read books yourself. Make learning part of your life style. Turn off the TV!!!!! Talk about events, ask open ended questions.
And I don't know if this will help, but have you had her intelligence tested? Perhaps she needs to be in special education classes. What about her vision? Has that been checked? Have you thought about tutors or special classes?
I would start working on the reading skills. This is a must for any level of success in school. Have her read out loud to you every night. Sort of a switch on the bedtime story, she reads to you instead of the other way around. Even if it is books for younger children. She needs some success to build on.
2006-08-10 13:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by momma dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child you are struggled with you need to right the teacher a note telling her to keep her out of art and all those other privillages and ask her to tutor your child. When your child gets home if shes does not go directly to her homework or does not understand it then help her and tell her if you do the work and get good grades then i will reward you! A child loves nothing better than her parent rewarding her. You should make her earn points by making a chart. Like if she makes a great report card give her 40 points. And if she gets her homework done and pays attention in class give her 20 points. then for her total of points at the end of the month give her a list of things she can spend her points on but dont make it huge and expensive. Then she knows that she can earn more points to get better prizes she will study and do her homework. hope this helps and the best of luck!!
2006-08-10 21:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by Ted A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all, take a deep breath. Yep, its frustrating as all get out.
First of all, be consistent, use positive reinforcement when she gets something right, nothing at all when she doesn't apply herself, and just stick with that.
Second of all, leave all the time in the world for her to do her work and ASK her what goes through her head when she's dealing with a problem. What is common sense to you and me, may not be to her.
Be consistent Be consistent Be consistent. She's got 10 years of bad habits to unlearn and she's testing you and your love for her right now. For ten years, she's gotten her way cause Mom didn't want to put in the effort, she's thinking she can eventually do the same with you.
Be patient, and if you need to, take a break and walk away, and then come back and hit the books again. I recommend a study break every 30 minutes to My adult friends, so don't expect more out of a ten year old. Just a short one, five minutes, and then right back at it, steady as clock work.
Good luck, I know the above helped Me. Let me know how it works out.
2006-08-10 20:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing with kids happens immediately, I'm thinking you have more of a problem than her. A lazy 10 year old?...that is ridiculous. All kids are different. Let her be a kid
2006-08-10 20:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Guy R 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You could try to get her into a program at school or an after school tutering place to help her.
2006-08-10 20:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋