ok so pretty much i broke up with my bf and all the sudden a pile of guys tell me that they like me. 2 stood out more than others because they are awesome friends to me but one is 2 years older than me and the oher is 3 yrs older. i mean i like them both a lot but i think that i love one more. so i am dating one right now. the one that is 2 years older. and dont get me wrong i like him a lot. but i am not sure if i love the other one. sounds silly but soooo true. and one is going to college and wont visit. its so confusing. but another thing . these to guys are BEST BUDS! i feel like a jerk......... help!
2006-08-10 13:30:59 · 15 answers · asked by Sally! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sounds like ur in a bit of a sticky situation... maybe u should jst take a break 4 a while b/w b/f's... just so u can sort out in ur head what u want... u shouldn't b going out wirh sumone just 4 the sake of havin a b/f.. or jst cuz they like u... hope this helped a little... good luck!!!
2006-08-10 13:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, honey..that's a rule of thumb. You NEVER under any circumstances date two guys who are friends. That ALWAYS backfires. The only thing I can tell you to do is to follow your heart. If you like the one more, then go out with him, but you also need to make sure that you are honest with both guys about everything. Tell the guy that you are going to date that you have chose him, but that his friend was interested and you did, in fact contimplate it for a moment. Tell the un-chosen guy that you just feel your heart is with the other guy, and you know that they are friends, but that you hope that things will still be cool between all of you. If you are not honest about it with both of them, they are going to find out about it, and they'll both be mad, and you will probably lose them both. Trust me on this, been there.
2006-08-10 13:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you spend time with one at a time first to get to know them in a different way than just friends. Sometimes a guy is a great friend but a horrible boyfriend. If you recently broke up with your bf, you may be too vulnerable to start a new relationship just yet. I'd wait a while before you commit to someone new.
2006-08-10 13:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by Yve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you like the 2 yr guy more. Why do you feel like a jerk? Stay friends with the other one.
2006-08-10 13:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Oneofthesedays 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find maturity child. Won't visit you say. Doesn't want to is more like it. Why don't you focus on the one you already have you neurotic mess.
2006-08-10 13:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them your not exclusive, dont sleep with either of them or make out with them(Kiss is fine just not making out) and you should have no prob dating them both.
2006-08-10 13:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by purplewingduck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU AREN'T A JERK! BUT YOU NEED TO LEAVE BOTH OF THEM ALONE AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE. BEST BUDS WILL STICK TOGETHER AND YOU WILL END UP GETTING HURT.
2006-08-10 13:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they dont hang out with you because you are dating the other one they are not a true friend
2006-08-10 13:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by stepout96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with the one u're sure of and tell the other one tactfully that u chose his friend. if u want my honest opinion, i'd say see if they're interested in a threesome, though i doubt it.
2006-08-10 13:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by lady sixx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KAYLYNN IM UR BFF WOO HOO lol and I say dump um!! i dunt like em
2006-08-10 13:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by a_montana_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋