i could use some advice i have had one long term serious relationship and im curretnly in a new one both relationships have been sexual but i have never in my life have had an orghasm i don even get close i feel stimulation alot but i never orgasm my current boyfriend says im too tight he cums literally in 2 minutes then hes like im done im tired now he wont keep going he cant satisfy me sexually and im annoyed im thinking about dumping him because i dont feel he considers my needs during sex he has not kept it going at all its like we have sex then he cums oh im done its so annoying i feel so inadequate because i have never orgasmed i wonder what my problem could be and how i could fix it my first b/f i was in love wirh and very attracted to but i never orgasmed it made him sad and me and the new one is annoying idk what to do is it because i may not know how? or could it be something else what other factors what could cause my lack of orgasm and what can i do to fix it adivce would be greatly appreciated thanks.
2006-08-10 13:22:19 · 12 answers · asked by bobbo 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Having an orgasm during intercourse is a trick as it is......so having one when you've never had one before is asking too much from your body.....AND your boyfriend.
First learn to bring yourself there. If you figure this out, you'll then know the feeling and type of stimulation you will need to teach your boyfriend. That isn't that easy if he is selfish. BUT......it's not entirely his responsibility! It's half yours. You have to be vocal about what you like. Do not make him feel bad or inadequate if he can't make it work out for you. This takes time. Read the book, "she comes first". It may help you, and make him read it too!!!
The other thing to remember about female orgasms is this:without enough foreplay, you won't reach orgasm. some women need more than others. You have to tell your partner this, and tell him what you like. Secondly, female orgasms are often more mental than physical. If you are stressed, trying too hard, focusing on HIM, worrying if you look fat, or if he's tired......if you are thinking about anything but your body, you will not climax. Men do this naturally, so they get off right away. Keep trying........
But learning by yourself is the first step.
2006-08-10 13:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This may not be the answer you are looking for but buy yourself a vibrator. I honestly never had an orgasm until I learned to do it myself. It helps when you know your own body and the exact spot to hit to get yourself off. It also sounds like your current b/f is very selfish sexually. That kinda sucks for you. A vibrator also helps in this area too, because if he can't be bothered to get you off you can do it yourself. Oh, and if you do get one make sure he knows you have it. This might give him more incentive to try harder to make sure you get off.
2006-08-10 13:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by prmb1999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen girl, your not alone. im going through the same problem. you're just going to have to wait on the right person. the right person who is going care about you and not always about themselves. i know it hurts, because it feels like he's using you and your not getting anything out of the deal but just wait like me. wait on someone to care for u enough to help you get one.it takes time. you could even try setting the mood. start a bubble bath or take off all your clothes it might be better, and it might help.
2006-08-10 13:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriends are just looking after their needs and not yours. Try slowing the pace down. Just work on your needs . Kissing your neck and working down your arms. Go slow and let him kiss your breast . Go slow and just relax. You take control of what your body wants and needs. A man can work wonders with his tongue and this will get you ready
2006-08-10 13:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should first masturbate and figure out how you can get yourself to orgasm. it will also help you feel more confident sexually. then you can get your man to make you orgasm.
well if you don't mind trying it in front of the computer then i can talk you through it and get you to try a few things.
2006-08-10 13:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could make it happen for you. most guys have the ability. you have to know what it is that does it for you. Ive been with many girls and the most satisfied ones tell me what they want. its never anything to crazy like peeing or whips or anything. just communicate
2015-11-02 15:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by luke 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such thing a s a desise that causes you not to have an orgasam. Ask your ob/gyn about it. I think i have it too. :(
Anyways, Good Luck!! *:-)
2006-08-10 14:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by Elisey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have they tried orally satisfying you first then if you are willing satisfy them, but you are the important one.
Good luck!!!
2006-08-10 13:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by slickkittykattwhopurs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why dont you just have one on your own. You dont need no dumb boy to do it for you, especially a selfish one. just do it on the outside, no fingers.
2006-08-10 13:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever masterbated? If you know how to please yourself then it may help in your relationship..Buy a vibe and see..or talk to your doc..hope this helps..good luck..
2006-08-10 13:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by Heather b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋