How can you tell....?

Question

How can you tell if you've fallen ( or are falling) out of love with your partner or are just annoyed by them?

Please, no more STUPID answers. This is a serious question.

And to those of you who are here just to get two points, why would you care about your score on an answering site if your answers dont HELP anyone?

Answer 1

Most people won't like my answer. But if you really think about it, many will still say it's true.

Much of loving someone is about us as individuals, not about our partners.

If you fall in and out of love, you aren't truly in love. You are infatuated with your partner. That "feeling" comes and goes. When you really love someone, you basically have made the decision to love them no matter what. Love is not a feeling, it's a decision.

That's also why you have to choose carefully who you decide to love.

If you can't see the difference, then you aren't ready to get married anyway so, it won't matter if you leave them right now because you likely won't be with them later.

Answer 2

You can tell if you are falling out of love if you are argueing all the time and can't have fun together anymore. If you don't look forward to seeing this person are talking to him anymore. And if you looking other guys as someone u would like be with more than friends.

Answer 3

when your in love, your minds are as if they are one. The "Meeting of minds" is also what we call a soulmate connection.

This never goes away., ever. This is true love too. It is also unconditional love because you don't have to do something to feel that way with that person either. It comes naturally.

It is the best feeling in the world too.

If you find you have to do something (conditions) in order to be in love with a person, then you are not really in love at all.

Answer 4

Take some time away from him. After a while, if you miss him like crazy you were obviously just annoyed. If you're really enjoying the freedom, it maybe time to re-think the relationship.

Answer 5

You are the best person to know as you know the person as well as the times you spent with him. There are things you can pick up on that raise a ( Red Flag ), as I'm not privy to the inner workings of your relationship.

By being observant you can tell when things are not what they should have been.

Answer 6

I think you know, what is the difficult part is facing the truth and then dealing with it.
Its never easy to figure out whats going on in your life cause we lack objectivity, but in my mind if your even asking the question out loud, it might be worth digging into~~~~try talking to friends and family about this though/ after all they know more about the sit than we do~~~~~~(good question though) It made me think

Answer 7

well this is a good one, umm really if you are together in public and you see and or are looking at something and he doesn't care then don't put up with it and you are ever on a plane or bus and he's been on one before ask for the window seat, if he says no then it's also not worth dating him.

Answer 8

Get by yourself some where and truely imagine yourself with out them. If it makes you sad, than you are just annoyed. If it makes you feel relieved, sorry no more love there.

Answer 9

It makes you cringe when he tries to touch you. Nothing he says makes sense to you. His voice drives you insane, in a bad way. His appearance becomes hiddeous to you. You can no longer remember why you are with him. You can't remember what ever turned you on about him. You can't even have mercy sex with him. When he eats, it turns your stomach.

I guess you can tell that I have experienced this before. My question to myself became; "was I ever actuall in love with him"?

Answer 10

well love isn't real, it's just unbridled emotions--a lack of self control. It's liek you're on a high.. eventually you come off that high and must face the world...

so i'd say indeed, you don't 'love him', and i'd split with him so you two aren't miserable