We have 3 kids together and he told me out of the blue he wants a separation and is moving out next week. How do I heal a broken heart? I am completely crushed by his decision and don't know what to do. Help?
2006-08-10 13:09:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hate to tell you this but some people never get over someone they love. Time Time Time will help. In a perfect world you could break all relations with him and it would be a little eaiser. With three kids that is impossible. People will tell you to go out and find someone to replace him But that is so wrong. You need to grow from this: deal with your hurting and anger. Find someone who you can talk to do not hold your feeling inside. Most of all you have to find a way to live your lives you and the children without him. There is no easy answer just get by hour by hour than day by day than week by week than year by year. It may take a long time but things will get better. Find happiness in yourself.
2006-08-10 13:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by soo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can not stop him from leaving you because if he don't that cause problems for you and your kids. the only way you can heal a broken heart is to let him go and move on with your life but make sure that you spend time with your family because they should always have your back when your go through things like this. just give him what he wants and if he misses you he will be crawling back in no time and when he does make him suffer just a little while. i think he already had a relationship going on while yall were together that's why he is moving out so fast.
good luck and I'm sorry that you have to go through the BS men put good women through just keep your head up because you have children and also need to be there for them. oh your kids can help you get out of this tight spot.
2006-08-10 13:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by pappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as 'out of the blue'. This was a long time coming. You just haven't been able to bring yourself to face it. There is no point trying to hold on to someone who doesn't love you anymore. Just read the article in my blog about the Love Hangover issue. There are local groups and societies for ppl in your emotional situation. Try to see a counsellor as well. It would be very good to talk to a professional about your grief and anger. The best revenge on someone like your husband would be total indifference and a happy ending for yourself. But it take time to reach there. Good Luck!
2006-08-10 13:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be the best thing. You dont wanna keep noone that dont wanna be kepted. You and ur babies can start a new life and be happy. Your babies dont need to be around his kind anyway. He aint no man if he couldnt be up front and let you know ahead of time he wanted to leave. He didnt care to think about you or the kids so forget him. Believe me your heart will heal pray and the Lord will guide you.
2006-08-10 13:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you mend this broken heart? How can a loser ever win?
Help me mend this broken heart and let me live again! Reminded me of the song. Time heals all. Love your kids and yourself and move on with your life without him. If you want you can talk to me at any time.
2006-08-10 13:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray and ask God for guidance. Think about the well being and safety of your children. You have three children and yourself to look after now. Get motivated, get a job, if you do not have one. Join the gym, take some classes and kick his _________ to the curb. He will only miss you and come back and treat you right or you will be his little helper when he needs one. Keep your head up, you will be fine.
2006-08-10 13:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by swtazsuga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how bad it hurts,but you have to pick yourself up and go on with life.He will realize what he have once it gone.Make you happy and do for your kids.If he wants to leave make sure you get child support.It may be another woman involved if so don't worry because you reap what you sow.Cry it out and once you stop crying don't cry no more,don't give him the satisfaction.Life will get better one day at a time.you just have to deal with the days and make the most of it.I wish you luck and keep your head up.
2006-08-10 13:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make arrangements to move away, and start up a new life with your 3 kids on your own. It won't be easy. You can do it though, because you do have self confidence in yourself.
2006-08-10 13:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is what he wants you cant make him stay. Time is all that deals a broken heart. I am very sorry hun, men can be so cruel.
2006-08-10 13:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by melty56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie i'm sorry about what your husband done by moving out, but do you realy want him to stay if he doesn't care any more? You desever so much more than that type of love .
2006-08-10 13:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋