Burial or cremation?

Question

Realizing many people don't discuss this until an unexpected death....what are your wishes after you pass.....memorial service, full on grave side service....plaque or headstone...get the idea. We have to be specific about what is important to us and let people know in writing before the decisions are made for us......unless it doesn't matter to you.

Answer 1

I have a living will in which all of this is stated out so I have taken the planning out of others hands.

I will be cremated and the ashes if legally possible spread from the top of Cadillac Mountain in Acadia National Park in Maine. If that is not legally possible they may spread my ashes elsewhere in nature but not bury them in the ground.

I will have a cenotaph on my parent's headstone giving my birth and death information as they have a large family plot.

I will have no funeral or memorial. I want people to remember in life not death.

Answer 2

It really depends on the person...

If the person who has passed away was always nice to you and others, showed alot of humanity to everyone around them, and was a good person throughout their lives when it came to putting people first, then a nice burial is recommended.

although, those who have been through the ringer with a person all their life who wasn't very nice and cruel to others and mean to many, would get cremation.

Might as well make it a point here. When it comes to money, it still ends up costing the same in the long term.

Answer 3

I have decided on cremation followed by being made part of an artificial memorial reef. I've talked to my daughters about it, and they love the idea. When I saw the time lapse videography of how the reef is put in place and then new ocean life literally seems to be created from where there was only death, I was totally into it. Check out www.eternalreefs.com if you haven't heard of it. What a unique way to go.

Answer 4

Cremation. Mainly because of the cost factor. I don't want to leave a financial burden on my family. Both of my parents were cremated, my fathers ashes buried in a private place and when my mother passed, my fathers ashes were dug up, and both parents ashes were put in a wooden box and buried in a cemetary w/a headstone. There was a memorial service for each. My husband says to donate his body to science.

Answer 5

I have found that what makes sense is cremation with no wake, funeral, or burial of ashes. A plague somewhere would be memorable. I prefer this to be small and placed with other passed military members. A living will is also a good way to plan ahead.

Answer 6

i want a full service at my home and then moved to the cemety for burial. i already have plans written down in case this does happen. playing music as i am lowered in to the ground, at the house and before the cemory. my family thinks it is very smart because it may happen to me anytime.

Answer 7

I told my kids I will be cremated so both of them could have a part of me and then take me on there vacations, I myself told my hubby I really don't care what you do with the body when I'm gone just call a cab and put me in there then they find a body that expired lol

Answer 8

I fully agree with you that it should be talked about it. Grant it is not the MOST comfortable subject but it is necessary. My parents have talked to me and I have made plans for my burial with my husband. It is a must.

Answer 9

I think that everybody should be organ donors. After they use what they need you should be cremated. Burial is such a waste of good land.

Answer 10

burial , with a mariachi playing love songs... A statue of me as my headstone