Well, I'm a 21 year old male virgin studying Film and Psychology at NYU on full scholarship - I remember learning in my Psych Class that people who aren't in (or who never had) any intimate relationships cut short their life span by about 15-20 years. Is their any way around this (besides getting a gf)? I want to live as long as I can whilst remaining a celebate virgin and it SUCKS to know that I'll die earlier just because I'll be a single virgin. I know that I'll never get into an intimate relationship but I'm sure that I will want to eventually have two children of my own by cloning (perhaps in 20 years)- when will the technology become available?
Girls seem to hate me as I'm only 5'6" (passive Eugenics, lol) - and I have nothing at all in common with any girl and I'm usually never interested as it is. I'd rather really just hang out by myself, and become a screenwriter or composer.
Any Tips? Thanks a ton!
2006-08-10 12:39:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Alternative Medicine
I should clarify that I'm an agnostic/atheist so priesthood probably wouldnt work out too well for me. lol.
2006-08-10 12:58:49 · update #1
One word: Masturbate.
2006-08-10 12:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mellorine~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's what you need to do. Find the easiest girl you know. Take her out on a date. Be nice to her. Be a gentleman, no matter how hard that is for you. Get to know her even if you're not interested in anything that she has to say. Just put yourself out there and then let her put it on you, if you know what I mean. I think that if you could feel how sex feels and how great the warmth of a woman feels you would change your mind about wanting to be alone forever. Don't knock something that you've never tried, especially when it goes against your nature to not pursue a mate. If you don't like it then by all means be alone forever. If you choose to be alone forever, don't worry about the last 15 or 20 years of your life because they won't be all that great anyway. See a therapist to try and find out why it is that you are intentionally alienating yourself from women. What are your fears and insecurities? Good luck in your film career.
2006-08-11 02:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Queevil 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My goodness no wonder you have not met anyone worthwhile. You are on such a downer. You do not have to be a virgin to be healthy. You can have your cake and it it too, you know. Its all about positive thinking, and using all the bodily parts you were given. I think girls seem to hate you because you appear to hate yourself. Sit in the full sun for 20minutes a day, wear some yellow and or orange clothing for a better outlook on life. I am going to live to be 200yrs old (female), all I do is eat right, think right and act right and everything else falls into place. Live your life instead of being a bystander. Chin up all is not lost.
2006-08-10 20:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're gonna get a lot of flack on Y! Answers for this question...
In life you have to make decisions, I don't know why you are consciously decided to deny yourself the joy of this biological urge.
But since you think you want to be celibate forever, eat well, take care of yourself, and you'll survive as long as you do. 15-20 years is an average. You could live to be 100, who knows.
But a self-absorbed creative life may not be worth living that long without sharing your time with anyone else.
2006-08-10 19:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by vicvic* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being married may not be the key. It is probably something more general such as having other people in your life to live for. You are going to have kids, which is a good thing. Also, pets are a healthy thing to have in your life. At least give church a try.
2006-08-11 03:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by Cas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flash--keep an open mind and agenda. there's probably a woman wholly appropriate out there for you if you become interested. in all events, never concern yourself with what other's think of you, ever--that's a step closer to being free of all conditioning and general societal bs. how you wish to lead your life is your decision, barring criminal behavior. be creative and independent. also, question and research the psych class statistics, since they are preying on your mind. any false premises or analyses there? you are quite young yet, there are many adventures ahead. be courageous.
2006-08-10 20:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by drakke1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am hoping you will eventually change your mind. But if not, try becoming a monk. Hopefully, if you find God he won't cut your life short. Personally, I think you are a little on the weird side. No offense, but I am sure there are girls who might like you. Maybe it's your outlook on everything that is turning them away. I think when you are 60, you will start looking at your life and think, "Yeah, I have accomplished a lot, but have no one to share it with." Please reconsider, I seriously think you will regret it.
2006-08-10 19:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by Good Gushy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Become a Catholic Priest...
2006-08-10 19:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by 345Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
umm....no. and cloning? that's your solution to procreating? I PRAY you never child any offspring on this earth.
2006-08-10 19:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about cognitve therapy?
2006-08-10 20:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by Incongruous 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋