Im tired of drama?

Question

My friend and I are kinda in a fight right now. She is complaining I'm being really naggy and sick of listening to me cuz I'm a little down in the dumps. I know im being a bit naggy and I'm sorry. I recently started dating my friend and I'll admit I talk about him alot b/c he is the best thing to happen to me. She is sick of it I guess but I'm also sick of her always chatting about her new best friends. And she is accusing me of making her not be friends with this girl. But this girl constantly talked about my friend and I and turned her friends agianst her. I was the one who stuck by her but now shes pulling this saying I made her not be friends when she stopped talking to that bit**y girl. Advice please. Thanks

Answer 1

Wow. My eyes started to glaze over LOL. Have a hard time following all that ;)

1) nobody can MAKE somebody else not be friends with another. Somebody could cause a conflict, but ultimately you can never come between two true friends. So this is not entirely or even partly your fault.

2) sounds like this isn't really a true true friend. I don't want to jump to conclusions.. but if she doesn't want to listen to you and your sob stories - no matter how valid or invalide/unimportant they may be to her - then she's not really that great of a friend.

3) I think you need to surround yourself with some more positive people: especially if you are feeling down in the dumps.

4) I think you're a bit jealous about her and her new friends. And I think she's a bit jealous about you and your new boyfriend.

I suggest that you simply get out your feelings - in person.. just ask her to listen.. and not respond. write down what you feel.. don't give it to her.. just have it so that you can keep your mind straight. tell her how you feel.. ask her how she feels.. ask her to write down how she feels. Then you two can take the paper and burn it together. Laugh.. and realize how silly you are BOTH being.. not just you, not just her.. If after that the two of you are still at it.. move on.

I'm not saying this will happen, but if you two still don't get along.. imagine if you DID continue TRYing to make the friendship work out.. it could cause tension .. and you could take it out on your new boyfriend and that's even worse.

It's all unwanted.. unneccessary b.s. if you know what I mean. Sometimes drama is good., but most of the time it's just a bunch of b.s.

Again, I suggest surrounding your life with positive things. do the girl gossip thing.. but gossip about fun and good stuff. ditch the negative crapola - and if that means ditching one of your friends, then so be it. Just try to do it in a nice way. :P

And if you are having a difficult time 'giving up' on a relationship that you've worked so hard at.. just think to yourself.. are we both being compete dorks.. or is it a valid problem we're having and it will never stop... is it worth it to continue working on it.. or can I spend my time in a more positive manner that will be more beneficial to me.

And remember that it's okay to be selfish now and then. You're not evil if you do so :)

You could also try a truce.. say you'll shut up about your boyfriend.. meaning no more than two references a day.. if she will honor the same about her new friends. You can ALWAYS find other things to talk about.

Answer 2

You know what if that girl is going to be a beyonce so to speak than she is not a real friend I say let her go all she wants is drama that's gay. If she was such a good friend then she wouldn't look at your flaws she would look at your good things in life. If she has so many best friends then what's it to her if she loses you sounds harsh she'll come back to you straightend up trust me.

Answer 3

Ok, my best friend is ALLLLWAYYYSSS going on about her boyfriend and then complaining about other things, and i can never get a word in edgeways! Let me tell you this is really annoying! She's probably talking about her new friends because she is trying to make you jealous and to get you to be her friend again. Give your friendship another go, with you and her giving each other time to speak and I'm sure you'll be fine!

Answer 4

wow you made me dizzy..

Look your going to have drama when you are a teenager. BUT you have to remember it this way, how would you feel if you were her?? Remember you don't know what she is going through. And you are going to learn that people even our friends can get jealous. So either deal with it or don't. Sorry if that comes off to harsh. But being an adult is not easy either, we have to make decisions about what/who we want in our lives. SO good luck hon.

Answer 5

true friends remain friends always and forever and they stick by one another through thick and thin and it sounds like this person you really care about and you should take a stand, call her, talk to her and maybe you two and work this out, be open and honest with each other and you two will see how silly this fight was and move on to be best friends always

Answer 6

Well if she is a good friend tell her how you feel. Share your needs with her. You need someone to listen to you. If she can not realize that you have been there for her. Kick her to the curb and move on to someone who not only complains, but listens. It is a two way street.

Answer 7

Yeah, my advice is to quit playing games and act like a young lady. If you are being bitchy and know it, then stop. Sometimes you really reap what you sow in relationships.

Answer 8

Friends are stupid sometimes. They may say things at the moment that may not make sense. if she is a true friend, then she'll come around and then if not - you could always make new friends.

Answer 9

Dont worry about her,your friend probally doesnt know about her supposed friend talking about her.Tell her, and if she says you lying,shes not really a true friend.

Answer 10

Apologize to your friend, tell her u will stop nag-gin, or whatever u doin. Then see what see say!! Then see if it works every other day ask her DO U THINK I'M STILL NAG-GIN