How can you handle the fact that you turn certain age and still feel you have not accomplish or done anything

Question

My friends and have been talking about this for the last couple of months. I am ready to be 30 this year and a couple of my friends are getting close to it too.
Getting to be 30 suddenly looks to be a turning point in my views and thoughts about things in life now. Is this normal? Does everybody goes through this? Does it get better or worse as the years go by?

I don't know if the fact that starting to look back in time and say "Have I done something worthwhile?" has something to do with it. I tell my friends that all of sudden I get afraid of the future. Though I feel more confident and secure about things, I feel in uncertanty about the mistakes and the benefficial decitions I have made.

Now life is really full of expectations and experiences but can this process of looking at your life and starting to analize myself be part of it?
My friends tell me not to worry about anything but I think they are getting the same thoughts... what do you guys think? Does it vary with people?

If I knew I was going to get all this great anwers, I would have post a big THANK YOU ahead of time.

I can't believe people go through this for the most part. Advice like this makes life worthwhile.

Take Care!!

Answer 1

I just turned 32.

Turning 30 is more of a psychological thing than anything. There's no real difference between 29 and 30.

Having said that...

I think turning 30 is one major point in life, maybe the first, when you really take a look at yourself and do an honest evaluation of your past and present. I used to think of 30 as being over the hill. After all, most guys in professional sports are washed out before 30.

Not so now. When I saw 30 approaching (like when I was 27), I did an honest self-evaluation, saw a lot wrong, and changed my entire life over the next couple of years. At this point, my life is good and it keeps getting better all the time. Seriously. (And it has nothing to do with Jesus or coming out of the closet!)

The advice "not to worry about anything" is poor advice. You're THINKING about life, and that's always a good thing. If you haven't taken care to live what you consider to be a good life until now, then this is the time to start doing things differently. If you never do an honest self-check, you'll be 50 and in the same situation, but worse.

At 30, you can start to see some effects that some of your lifestyle habits have produced on your body, and even your relationships. Do an honest evaluation of yourself. Find out 1) what you want to keep doing, 2) what you need to stop doing, and 3) what you need to start doing.

You'll thank yourself when you're 40--or even 32!

Answer 2

It probably varies with people, but I went through the same thing at 30. Really, 30 was a fabulous year, and it has just gotten better since then. Yes, at 30 your perspective on life changes and you are more comfortable with yourself and secure in your attitudes. Your decisions get better. But 30 is still just a beginning. It's not the end! If you feel like you haven't contributed what you wanted to by now, then it's not too late to start. To tell you the truth, nobody can really be taken seriously before 25 anyway. If you're 29, then you know what I mean. You're not behind the game. I think you're probably pretty normal. Just find your passion and pursue it relentlessly!

Answer 3

Hi! I'm a bit older than you and my experience was good enough, to shake me and wake me, at about the same age, I had a very satisfactory profession, but I dreamed of something else, so, (as I live in southamerica, and studies are somewhat different), I´ll just tell you that I applied and I was accepted as a regular medical student and after 7 years, am a MD by now. I have a private life, and family, and I squeeze every minute for it's best, give as much as I can, and receive a lot.
This is only to show that changes can be made, maybe they are not easy but staying put is worse.
Worrying is not enough but it's a good start. Sometimes a rough change is necessary, sometimes a slow and gentle one is better. Make your own choice. Look around, read your answers, some of them are great....
Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm 25 I have 3 kids a husband that I can barely stand a nice house and vehicle. Yet I have no collage degree and no job, to be honest in the town I live I couldn't get a job if I tried because I have no collage degree and no experience.
So I feel like I'm in a rut and getting no where fast.
So I'm with you everything you said sounds like what I feel. I just hope that things will get better and I just try to look at what I do have and not think about what I don't have and the mistakes I've made and the things I should have done.
So just try to look at the positive in your life and not dwell on the other things you wish you would have done or don't have.
Live for the future don't live in the past.

Answer 5

It is good that you already have that feeling at that early age. 30 is not old and you are just at the prime of your age. It is true that many have already been at their peak at 24. I have friends like that and he became my boss. I even thought at 30 he will be the owner already of that big corporation but it did not happen. We were faced with a problem he could not solve and the company collapsed on its face to the ground. He may be intelligent and the best in his school but when the old wisdom was needed he was not able to give it.
In your case,another thirty years is long enough for you to really find your true calling. Some changes may be needed or some innovations to what you are comfortably doing may help. Added education will definitely help. Do not look anymore if what you did in the past was not worthwhile, what is important is today just as long as you learn not to count the chickens while it is still being hatched. But stay focused and determined. Count your blessings and you will find the past is not really that worthless.

Answer 6

Your not looking for the answer Im going to write, however I just felt like sharing this with you!

Im not even in my 20s, yet there have been times when I have looked back in my past to remember my accomplishments. Nothing really seemed worthwhile, accept the smiles and love on the faces of children I had met in a special needs school

If ever in life you feel that you havent done much worthwhile, or accomplished anything...
try visiting a school for children with special needs and try to bring a smile to the face of atleast one of them! and that will be enough to give you that boost

those children are handicapped, yet not handicapped enough to give love. and it feels wonderful to be with them.
and i guess its perfectly normal to look back at 30..
it is definately a turning point..
its good to always keep thinkin if u have accomplished enough.. but u need to make sure if ur accomplishments are actually worthwhile or not!

Answer 7

I just turned 30 in February and have been going through something similar for about 2 years. I have just come to terms with the fact that I am doing everything that I possibly can to advance my station. I was really floundering for a while between jobs, not knowing what I wanted to do. I just decided one day on a course of action and have been following through with it. As for my personal decisions, I try to be open to recommendations and think things through for myself after I've tried to see every angle of the situation. You just have to basically decide what works for you and do it. I believe everyone, at some point, comes to this "fork in the road" for themselves. This is normal and seems to be something that happens around this time in life.

Answer 8

What you have is well known and called a "Mid Life Crises".
You think that your life is slipping away, without you doing something special with your life.
Not to worry it passes, and as our life spans are so much longer these days, you have at least sixty years to do something spectacular.
Many people don't do their best work until they are in their sixties, Winston Churchil. became Prime Minister at the age, Ronald Reagan was over that age, Picasson, Grandma Moses, etc.The list is long, for people who accomplish much in their later years.
What you should do, is make a list of what you would like to accomplish, during the rest of your life, and set out to do it.
The only thing holding you back, is you, and that can be easily changed, with a strong determination to do what you must do.
So go for it, make a plan and stick to it, your fears will soon pass, once you have done what you, wished to do.

Answer 9

you are just growing up and this is a good time in your life. As you get older you do see things a bit more on the clearer side of the fence. Sometimes we all have to stop and evaluate our lives. This helps us to cope or deal with the truth, no matter what the truth is in our lives. to know yourself is to love yourself for who you are and who you are not. At least you know your limitations and know your strengths, which is a great thing to come to realize at this point in your life. It's OK to have these feelings to. Your very Normal.

Answer 10

varies with people but it's normal for everyone. even those who have accomplished some thing sin their life. you just get to that point where you look back on your life and wonder, "did I do it right?" then a whole host of other questions follow suit but rather than dwell on the past, look to the present. focus on what you need to do in order to get where you should be or where you want to be. constantly focusing on what happened as opposed to what will happen is the dark road to depression.