Just wondering because it would be very interesting to hear how a religious homosexual reconciles himself with his or her religion.
Do you sort of ignore the church half of it and just hope that god will forgive this behavior as he forgives other things? Or do you actually go to church and just adopt the policy of "don't ask don't tell"??
One other thing.. Aren't you people just a little bit sad that your choice prevents you from having children? I have a daughter whom I can't imagine life without. When you people were kids didn't you ever think that maybe it would be nice to raise a family the way your parents did?
Sorry for the 2 questions for the price of one =)
2006-08-10 12:05:09 · 30 answers · asked by La Voce 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What do you mean by "you people"? That's very ugly of you to say. For your information, I have two wonderful daughters and a wonderful relationship with my family, friends, and God. How about you? It sounds like you're unhappy with your life and dare to question us in the LGBT community. Before you can pass judgement on anyone, make sure that your house is in order and worry about your own salvation.
2006-08-10 12:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm bi and I go to church & I believe in God... I see nothing wrong with it. You pretty much have to adopt both attitudes you mentioned.... ignore what the church says and just keep in mind "God forgives everyone, sinners & saints alike... and as long as I ask for forgiveness He should forgive me just like He forgives others." And you also have to adopt the "don't ask don't tell" method... there's only a few people at my church who know I like guys & gals... and they are my age, the ones who found out when I came out in high school. No one else knows, and I really don't care. I'm happy with the way that I am... and if God can't forgive me for what little sins I've done, compared to some of the evils other people have committed, then oh well... that's my loss I guess. As for not having children... I can't have kids anyway... medical reasons, so there's no difference there. And its only because of ignorant homophobics that gays can't take care of children. We're no more likely to harm our kids in any way, any more or less, than any straight person would!
2006-08-10 13:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Tory 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, there are alot of religions that are accepting of homosexuality. There are even branches of Christianity (like the Episcopal Church) that have no problems with homosexuality and even accept gay ministers. Homosexuals and those that support them can even be part of religions that generally condemn homosexual. There are certainly gay Catholics out there. The people who are condemning of homosexuals are following a passage in the Old Testament. A good deel of Christians follow only the New Testament and believe that God loves us all equally. As for the question about children...Well actually you are incorrect. Gay people have the option of adopting or of artificial insemination. It is quite possible for homosexual couples to raise families. But there are lots of homos who don't want children just as there are alot of heteros that don't. You say that you can't immagine life without your child and I certainly consider it a positive thing for one's child to bring them happiness. But you must understand that one person's Heaven is another person's Hell. I personally have never wanted kids. I have had passing moments where I imagine what I would do if I had children, but that is a purely "what if" scenario. It is never wishful thinking. By the way, although I am a homo, I am also an agnostic and I have no intention of adhering to a particular faith. Maybe you wouldn't consider me qualified to answer this question. But I do know about how alot of other people think and I feel that I can offer a perspective on this. Oh, and homosexuality isn't a choice. People can no more change their sexual preferance than they can their eye color. You are likely do offend alot of people by refering to it as a choice so I would recommend not doing it. I hope that you found this somewhat insightful.
2006-08-10 12:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by The Dark Adonis 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that everyone should be welcomed into the church regardless of race, sexual orientation, wealth, or any other factor that some religious organizations may discriminate against. I attend a church where everyone is welcomed. We have gays, lesbians, poor, wealthy, African American, Hispanic, Caucasian, and a little bit of everyone there and they are treated the same. I don't think that it is right for any Christian to discriminate against anyone else that believes in God. That is not why we are here. We are here to serve God and carry out his will, not to put anyone on trial and judge them for their lifestyles. I am sure we all do things that is frowned upon by others but that is life, you cant make everyone happy. What matters in my religion is making God happy. I hope this helps your question from a Christian point of view.
2006-08-10 15:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by ROO! 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was atheist before I knew I was gay, and my religion had no impact on my sexuality. I just never believed in the whole "god" concept. If I were religious, however, it wouldn't bother me because there are a lot of aspects of religion that people ignore. The Bible prohibits eating shellfish and wearing polyester, but people still do that.
My sexuality is not a choice. But it doesn't bother me that I can't have children. I'm not exactly the nurturing kind and I don't want kids, especially young kids. The most I would go for is adopting maybe a 12 year old, but I can't deal with young kids. Even if I were straight I'd go for adoption.
2006-08-10 18:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by holidayspice 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Um, I am a spiritual person more than following the organized religion. In many respects I do handle my life as any Catholic would with the obvious exception I love a love that isn't as good or worthy to other Catholics. I don't think you have to go to a church to be religious as Jesus said split two pieces of wood and there I shall be. He didn't say you have to go to a designated building. Anywhere two people come together to pray honor and love God there he is. As for growing up I wanted children, and I will have them. I don't see anything wrong with adopting children and giving them a good life. That's much like when one partner is sterile they wouldn't be able to have children so what's the point? and as for "my choice" being the reason I can't have children that's just BS that you should try reconciling with logic.
2006-08-10 12:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by laydlo 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that gay people are "mostly" anything but LGBT. When you generalize or stereotype, you come across as bigoted and insensitive. Was this your intent?
God has nothing to forgive, since God made gay people exactly as they are, and God doesn't make junk!
Being gay certainly does not prevent anyone from having children. There are lots of adoption agencies out there. Plus there is also artificial insemination. With all the harassment and bigotry that gay parents have to go through to adopt children, I feel very secure that all their children are 1000% wanted.
My beef is with 'christians' who preach hatred, bigotry, discrimination and therefore violence against LGBT people. How do they have the gall to use that title when they are doing the exact opposite of their teachings? WWJD?
I hope you are not counted among such hypocrites. If so, I will ask God to forgive you. You should also.
2006-08-10 12:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ok, first off, it is not a choice. You know that, you've read it a hundred times, and you know it. So your question is insulting and argumentative.
But as for the religion part. I'm gay and Christian and I go to church and I'm an active member in a mainstream church that affirms my being there! If you've only been to churches that preach exclusion, go to one that reads Jesus message of love and inclusion sometime.
It is a shame that many gay and lesbian people grew up in religious traditions like the one you profess, and have been hurt by the church and turned away from God. God does not mean to turn anyone away.
2006-08-10 16:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am agnostic which means that I belive in god but don't follow any organized religion. So the church part doesn't apply to me. But yes I do plan on raising a family. I plan on adopting or being artificially inseminated. I mean there are other ways to have a child besides heterosexual sex.
2006-08-10 15:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by Tamsin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not quite sure why you think gays and lesbians do not raise kids. Practically all the couples I know now have or have had kids. They are very fulfilled by them. I personally never wanted any, and I'm glad I didn't have them. I have straight friends that feel the same way. One straight woman I know had her tubes tied at age 29, when she was quite convinced she wouldn't want children, and has never regretted the decision.
Kids are a personal choice, regardless of your orientation.
2006-08-10 12:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋