Why do women not blame themselves when their husband "cheats"?

Question

First of all I don't really consider it cheating, a man has the right to do as he pleases. A woman should NEVER question him, it is an abomination! Secondly, most time men chose to take another lover it is something the woman has done to drive him from the bed. Why do woman not recognize this?

To clarify, I am not refering to a man cheating because he is dissatified sexually. I mean in all ways a woman not knowing her place, like so many of these western "liberated" women who are answering this wuestion. Also I have never EVER cheated on my wife. She is a righteous women who knows that a womans place is subserviant to a man.

Answer 1

I feel sorry for the women that ends up with you. No once a man is married, he does not have the right to do as he pleases. You agree to honor and be faithful when you take your marriage vows. A marriage is a joint relationship, not a one sided marriage. Most men can't control their penis, that is why they cheat.

Answer 2

There is no place written that a man has a right to cheat on his wife. Men are not so superior that if their wife isn't pleasing him sexually that he has a right to have sex with another woman. In the "big book" that I read called The Bible, your explanation of abomination is called adultery whether you are from another country or not.
The wedding ring that is on my left hand gives me the right to question my husband if there ever comes a time that I need to about this subject.

Answer 3

Men do not, I repeat DO NOT have the right to cheat or treat their women with such disrespect because you are a man. When a women and man become husband and wife they are equals. They become one flesh. Yes the man is the head but the woman is the neck and she can turn you in any direction she wants. Its weither its is a good or bad direction. what that means is that husband and wife must work together to get things accomplished in there marriage. One can not work without the other.

And it is not a spoused fault if the other cheats, man or woman. We all have mouths and with the mouths God gave us we can talk to our spouse and tell them excatly whats wrong and try to work it out. There is NO excuse what so ever for the other to cheat If you cheat your a coward, lier, dishonest, disrespectful person who needs to be slaped up-side the head.

No ones to blame but the cheater themselves.

Answer 4

lol....I don't know who you think you are, but if a man decides to cheat, HE is responsible for HIS actions, NOT HER!!!! How convenient to blame someone else for something YOU did....that must be how you can sleep at night.
You must know that the words you write will offend a lot of women, including me. So, if a woman cheats on her man, is it HIS fault??? And, if a man has the right to do as he pleases, then so does the woman. If you think women are below you, then go to Iran or Iraq - the women have no rights over there, maybe that's what you want....I'm so thankful my husband doesn't see things the way you do...
In addition, if I feel my man's behavior is questionable, I WILL QUESTION him, and if he doesn't like it, he can get the f**k out. I have EVERY right to question him, I am not below him.

Answer 5

So by your ideal, if a man sucks in bed it is perfectly okay for her to go out and find someone else. I mean it is something that the man is doing wrong right?

Don't be a hypocrite. Most men cheat because they are retards. It has nothing to do with being driven from the bed. Thats the BS men come up with to justify their bad behavior.

And women questioning a man's actions, is probably the olny thing that keeps us out of the stone age. And you m friend can go back there.

Answer 6

That is a crazy question. If the woman is keeping her man satisfied then there is no reason for her husband to be cheating on her especially if there married. My God! When a man and a woman get married they take the same vow thousands of married couples have. To be devoted and honest with each other until death. If either one of them break that vow then I think the game is on. Once that vow is broken nothing else matters.

Answer 7

Ive cheated in the past when i didnt care. But my excuse was revenge for all the b****ing that she does. As i get older i realize that theres no excuse for cheating and i wouldnt want the same thing to happen to me. cheating is just wrong. But women dont see this because they dont know what they do sometimes that drives a man to be attracted to the nicest person that comes along.

Answer 8

D@mn..Did we just go back a few hundred years? Get in the 21st century. Men and women are now fundamentally equal which means that a man is just a responsible for his infidelity. Women are not the eternal punching bags and scapegoats we once were for men. If you can't keep it in your pants, blame YOU not your wife.

Answer 9

actually a lot of women do blame themselves, and most of them dont deserve to blame themselves, how is it a womans fault if her man needs more than one woman to satisfy him? sounds like a problem on the mans part to me, however women cheat probably as much as men and the same goes for them. if you need more than one woman to keep you happy, then maybe you should try finding a woman that doesnt mind you sleeping with other women, they arew out thier you know...lots of them im sure, but to have a woman who believes she should be enough for you, and you know other wise is just wrong...

Answer 10

Because they have low self esteem and they dont realize that their man cheating has nothing to do with them.. but with their man and his mind state and maturity level. Along with any dsyfunction he may have... Women tend to think what should i do what should i have done to prevent this but you know what... 9 times out of 10 the woman could be doing everything that she can to please and satisfy her man and he still cheats... She can look good, keep herself up, cook, clean and please her man in the bedroom and if He feels inadequate he is still liable to cheat!