how do I convince my girlfriend..?

Question

-- that she shouldnt be afraid of letting me touch her? She loves making out, and a couple times I've pulled off her shirt and played with her breasts and stuff, and she loves that too.. but a few weeks ago I tried rubbing her between her legs, in the hopes I could take it further to fingering later. When I was about to do it, she seemed all for it, but while I was doing it she started shaking and breathing really heavy, and she told me she was scared. Then her parents called her away, and when she came back she started crying because she thought she let me down and disappointed me by not letting me go through with what I was doing.. even though we talked abotu it at length, she still thinks she let me down. How do I convince her that 1) we dont have to do anything she isnt ready for, and 2) she shouldnt be afraid of going further?

Well, I have told her.. that night, and since then, we've talked about it multiple times. I've told her that I love her more than anything, and that I would be happy even if we never got to do anything with eachother. She talks up a big game when we arent getting physical, but she just gets scared easily, and feels like she 'failed' me when we dont finish it. =[

And, dont get me wrong.. I know we're not ready for sex. Sex isnt what Im talking about here =\

Answer 1

mabe she came bak crying becuz her parents heard her... just tell her if shes not ready then u guys dont have to do anything

Answer 2

Take things slow, the reason why she might be shaking etc. is because 1. she is not comfortable 2. the location 3. not ready for that type of commitment 4. being force into something 5. not sure what you will think about her, if you do, do it. 6. reassurence about the overall relationship.

Best Regards,
FxMM

You should not be fornicating in the first place, wait until you are both married.

Answer 3

Maybe give her some time to cool down and give her the assuring answer everytime she feels this way. tell her that you not upset at all and willing to give her the chance to be ready when she wants. tell her that if she feels upset, she can continue to decided which level of intimacy she wants with you. give her time and tell her that you respect and love her more than a full deep intimacy. giving her the assurance that its the love and care you have for her as the top priority. this way she will feel better.

Answer 4

You answered the question yourself........tell her exactly what you feel. Maybe not touch her for a few days / weeks until she is comfortable again.......be glad you have yourself a girlfriend that is not eager and horny like so many young girls today. Respect her and show her you care about her regardless if you get to touch her private areas or not.

Answer 5

Give her and yourself time, she sounds unsure. She needs time and don't need to feel pressured into anything and neither do you need to feel you've encouraged or Discouraged anything. She feels scared and should right now but give her time and when the time is right things will happen the way they are suppost. You do sound like u truly Love her and no doubt she Loves u 2, u also ur acting Very Mature about this and that is R-E-F-R-E-S-H-I-N-G!! Good Luck!!
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Use Condoms!! PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

You're a nice guy to not want to pressure her into anything and to be concerned about her feelings. Continue to be patient and caring...when the time is right, both you and your girlfriend will know

Answer 7

just tell her calmly, and kiss her and look her into her eyes and tell her if shes not ready its okay with u. and when she is ready that u will take care of her and make sure she is comfortable with the situation..

Answer 8

just let her know how much you care for her and tell her what ever she is ready for you to do let you know..you dont want to rush her...you want it to be special

Answer 9

maybe shes just not ready give her time

Answer 10

give her presents (expensive) to calm her down ;)