what's the best way to tell a person you dont want to be their friend anymore?

Question

i'm clueless

Answer 1

Just tell them flat out and the reasons why. Then stop all contact. Its kinda hard but you just have to be honest.

Answer 2

Basically, stop communicating with them. Don't call or accept their calls to you.
When this person calls your phone, either don't answer or answer and tell them you cannot talk right now and you will call back. THEN.......don't call back.

Eventually, the person will get the message and he/she will dwindle away.

Don't give him/her any time for visits or hanging out.

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Now, unless, this person has done something wrong to you or you know for a fact that this is not a genuinely good person to be friends with. . . . . . a person who has shown loyalty and trust is someone you should want to keep. You don't find that everyday.

Make sure this is what you want to do, you might be getting rid of someone who could be the best friend you might ever know.

You say you are clueless. How could you be clueless about how to end a friendship with a person who is not a true friend? I think this is probably someone who has shown you they are truly a good friend but maybe there is some sort of social standard going on.

Maybe this person don't look a certain way or don't have a certain social status. Perhaps you have other so called friends who question you on how you could be friends with "such a person".
Having a true friend goes beyond the way a person looks or their social status. Choose friends by the personality they possess and how loyal they are to you.

Remember this: PEOPLE COME AND GO BUT GOOD FRIENDS ARE HARD TO COME BY.

some food for thought. . . . . . . . . :)

Answer 3

You don't call anymore, you don't write, what did I do?
You could start there. Or you could talk to the person. Let them know that something they've done has bothered you or you're just not the same people anymore and the friendship is not working out. People change and so do our feelings for them. I told my best friend that I thought we'd grown apart and that we should give one another a break. She was hurt and we did stop talking but we've been friends for nearly 20 years and have seen one another through a lot of hurts and we naturally fell back together. Every type of relationship takes work. Some more than others. We realized we took advantage of one another because we JUST KNEW the other would understand.
Talk things out. Don't leave this person in the dark. None of us are perfect. I would want to know if someone didn't want to be friends with me. It really makes you look bad when you just walk away from someone with no explanation.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Rejecting this person could cause problems. It may be honest but it may not be the smartest or kindest thing to do. Stop telling your personal business to this person and just answer questions as noncommittally as possible. Use comments such as “Oh really” and “I’m not sure” and “I’ll have to think about it” as much as possible, rather than telling your thoughts and feelings in depth. Try not to say what you are going to do on any given day. If / when this friend asks what you are doing because they want to get together say things like “it depends, there’s a lot going on here, I’ve got a lot to do.” In other words BE BUSY. It can help to develop a new interest that will not be interesting to the other person. Perhaps you can decide to learn to speak another language and then when you must talk to this person you can tell them all about verbs and what you are learning about the language. In other words BE BORING. If you become sort of a “one topic” person who is always busy they will eventually fade away. Do not return calls right away, then when they finally reach you explain that you just haven’t had time, you’ve been studying your language course (or whatever). Let them think you are just going in another direction in life and just don’t have much time. This is the best way not to burn your bridges nor make enemies. Good luck.

Answer 5

This is a tough scenario. Personally, I can't see how a friendship really ends. It may become less active, but good friends never stop being friends.

Be honest and tell the truth. But before you go out and speak, make sure you understand why YOU want it to end. Make sure your reason is valid for it to end. You may find your reason is not a reason to end but make a change in the friendship. The other reason why you want to have your reason understood is so you can explain it if the person wants one.

Becareful, each friendship bond can exist differently and require a different approach to break it without consequence. Some can be done directly. Some require a special touch. Some are over done and make you look like an ***.

After you end your friendship, do not refer or think of that other person for at least a week or 2. If the other person tries to make you look bad, ignore it. That is only their over reaction. Do not make it worse.

Answer 6

First and foremost, be polite and try not to hurt any feelings.
Depending on what type of relationship you had: if it was a personal relationship that is ending try to explain that you do not feel the same way about everything no more and that you would like to end the relationship because of that. That will give the other party the opportunity to give you feedback, i.e., ask you what has changed and so forth.

If the friendship was one from best friend to best friend and you want to end it because of some sort of disappointment, also, be polite. Explain that you do not think that it would be wise to continue the friendship because of the differencees. Don't fall into the mistake to respond likewise in case you get verbally attacked. Just be firm, stand your ground, stay polite, and then move on. Good Luck

Answer 7

It's really hard to say, especially since the reasons for not wanting to be their friend aren't known to us.

I would just sit them down and tell them. Say "I know we've been friends for (however long) but because of these reasons, I really don't think we can keep that friendship going". You want to be as clear about those reasons as possible, that way they can't say later that you didn't tell them what was going on.

Speaking of, is it really to that point? Have you tried working things out with them? Have you both tried to sort things through? If you can say yes, and yes to the fact that you have already told them that there is a problem, then I think if you are clear about the reasons to break off the friendship, and do it in an honest and mature way, you will have done everything you can do.

It's hard to loose a friend...for whatever reason. I am hoping that you will get through this and everything will be brighter on the other side. Good luck.

Answer 8

I truly don't think there is a BEST way but there are mature ways to do this. First YOU have to make ABSOLUTELY sure this is what you want becasue once done there may be no turning back, you also have to think about this, sometimes being the most "memorable" friend is way better than being the best friend. So be fair make sure you tell them HONESTLY why it is you want to end the friendhip and if its something your friend thinks she/he can change tell them to give you a couple days to think about it (if they are willing to try to quit/ or make up for whatever it is thats upset you so badly then if you've had a good frienship till now you may want to concider it) ok lets say you still decide it won't work you should tell her straight out that it just can't work but that you guys have had fun in the past and you will always remember those times. Then make sure that you NEVER say anything to other people as to why you are no longer friends other than saying maybe "we just had a falling out, but she's still a good person" Make sure to never try to have any "mutual" friends stuck in the middle, If a mtual friend says they are going to be with so and so be understanding and don't try to make them choose (BIG nono) just say" cool maybe we can hang tomorrow" or something like that. Try to always remember its VERY important not to EVER lower your standards to raise someone else's , Okay? OH and also in passing by just because you decided to not be friends doesn't mean you decided to be rude so if you pass her say a polite "Hello" and you can even inquire as to how she's been. Good Luck hon ***Make sure this is what you want BEFORE you act upon it*****

Answer 9

Friends out grow one another from time to time.
Maybe your likes and dislikes differ now. Maybe you have a new group of friends or just one. Whatever the reason for you not wanting to be friends with the person must be confronted. Maybe the person doesn't like what you are doing. It could be the other way around. Explain to the person why you don't feel that the two of you should not be friends any more.
Explain that it is time to go seperate ways sometimes we can't walk the same path our friends do and same for them. One friend may mature faster then the other in attitude, or behavior. This is normal too. Just sit down with your friend and explain why and then say that your feel that it would be better if we weren't friends any more. Remember to forgive in this. You must forgive yourself and your friend too. Don't leave a friendship with a grudge or hating. Leave a friendship with peace and understanding, on both parts.

Answer 10

Actually it depends on WHY you don't want to be their "friend" and what type person they are. If we are talking a dangerous stalker, nothing says "Beat it" like a restraining order.

In most cases coming right out and saying it may be painful but it is more fair than dodging someone and have them wondering WHY.

Tell them you are sorry but your personalities, or lifestyles, or life views seem to clash and that you would just feel more comfortable moving on to other friends; tell them that you don't want hard feelings.

If there was no defining incident that made you want to quit being friends, SAY SO. Let them know they did not do any particular thing, that you just really don't think the two of you "click" as friends.
Most adults will understand this.

Answer 11

There is no best way .Just think how u would feel / if it was u how would u like 2 be told.Only thing I can say is do it soon ,they will be hurt / may have a lot of questions as 2 why .Or they may feel same way / do not know how 2 tell U/. Just make sure u tell them face 2 face . U do not want them 2 remember u as a jerk / not women enough 2 say it 2 her / his face.They must have really hurt u 2 say u do not want 2 any kind of friend at all.